A Letter To My Family

A Letter To My Family

Blood isn't what makes a family, a family.

Dear dad, Diane, and Emily,

We aren't perfect, but we come very, very close. You each have turned my life around. You've made me smile when I really didn't want to. You've let me cry when I've really needed to. You've made me laugh until my whole body hurts. You've made me feel so loved. Being away from you guys while I'm at school is so hard. I feel like I'm missing out on funny stories, late night chats in the family room, delicious dinners, and family time in front of the TV.

When my mom died, I never thought I could be happy ever again. Then I met you two, Diane and Emily. I was a little unsure in the beginning, but you guys already know all those stories. How we all thought we would look completely different from how we actually do. I then got to know you too, and fell in love with two people that I wanted to call family.

I begged you, dad, almost every night to let us have dinner with Diane and Emily. I always wanted us to be together. Taking the trips to Texas for Thanksgiving and Christmas were so much fun, and still are! We bonded, and before any engagement or wedding, I knew I wanted this to be permanent. Yes, I dealt with the constant grief of my mother, and I still do, but I knew I needed a mother in my life. I also knew that I still wanted the sister I asked for every Christmas and birthday. My wishes finally came true.

In November of 2012, when we finally became a family, I was so happy. At the wedding, I couldn't wipe the smile off my face. The two families finally met and we became a family, and I knew no one was leaving and this wouldn't end anytime soon.

Now, almost four years later, I am still so happy. I love calling home at night and hearing everyones' voices in the background. We have had some really special moments, and we've had some moments of anger, frustration, and sadness. But that's all part of being a family, right?

Diane and Emily, you two have flipped my life right side up. You made my dad and I much better people. Who knows what our lives would be like if we didn't have each other?

I'm grateful that I have you guys to call a mom, a dad, and a sister. I don't feel the need to say the word "step-mom" or "step-sister." It just doesn't feel necessary.

We have traveled so many places together, shared so many stories, and talked about everything possible. I look forward to what the future holds for our family.

I love you all to the moon and back.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.

The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.


the loving granddaughters

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I'm Moving Away From My Boyfriend But That Doesn't Mean We're Breaking Up

Long distance or down the street, we're staying together.


Back in September, I applied and got accepted into the Disney College Program. This means I'll be away from my home state for four months, maybe six and a half if I apply and get accepted to extend my program. Being gone, I'm not only leaving my friends and family, but I'm leaving my boyfriend too.

A ton of people have asked me if we're going to break up and to set the record straight, the answer is NO.

Why would we even think about breaking up? It's only four months, and that's nothing. I blinked and we were already dating for four months. It's going to go by super quick.

On top of that, he supports me going and was beyond happy for me that I was accepted on the first try—not to brag or anything)! He wants me to go, not because he wants time apart, but because he knows that it's an amazing opportunity for me. He reminds me every time the Disney College Program comes up.

We both know that we're still going to talk to each other every day, or almost every day depending on my schedule. But we're both adults and can send a quick message to each other so that we know we aren't ignoring or forgetting about one another.

I think that a lot of long distance relationships don't work because of all this fake stuff people watch in movies and on TV—like no one is going to miss the most important business meeting of their life to have brunch with you...

One thing that I've noticed about people moving away and being in a relationship, is that they don't communicate. They don't communicate their worries and fears BEFORE they move, they don't do it during the move and if they are coming back soon they don't do it AFTER unless it's in a fight.

The thing about my boyfriend and I is that we've talked about what's going to happen when I have a crazy crazy schedule and it doesn't line up with his already busy schedule. We've talked about what's gonna happened when I leave and when I come back. We've talked about thing plenty of times and I think that we've for the most figured it out.

The other thing that I noticed with people going into long distance relationships is that they expect way too much and too many unrealistic things, and I think a lot of this comes from what is shown to us through social media.

I don't expect my boyfriend to jump on a plane every other weekend to come see me, and he doesn't expect that I do the same. We don't expect to have regular conversations like we do now, we both know that we might get a short window of opportunity to talk to each other depending on our schedules. We both know that it's going to be hours and hours before one of us replies to a text message. I don't expect him to send me a million and one packages. I don't expect him to drop everything to have a 10-minute phone call with me, and vice versa.

There are too many expectations and not enough communication, and I think that this is a huge problem when entering a long distance relationship. It's probably the reason so many people have asked me if we're breaking up or not. Yeah, it's going to be tough being away from each other, but we wouldn't be doing it if it wasn't worth it.

Oh and for the record for everyone who's asked me about us breaking up, even if something were to happen, guess what? We've already talked about it.

This is an opportunity not only for me but for him too and us together. So, yes, we're staying together but it's not like that was anyone's business anyway.

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