I remember some of my middle school days into high school. My friend Cam and I were constantly talking about girls (like most boys do). That age old evolution thing of finding a mate and having a family to sustain my species was taking over my cerebrum. He and I started noticing a lot of differences in the way we behaved, talked, and were growing (I’m not going into detail). A huge thing I noticed is that we were both becoming more and more competitive. We were trying to be the best at whatever it was we were doing to impress girls; and that's not a bad thing.

Pretty much since the beginning of time, man has been designing tools, building shelter, and crafting the most creative contraptions to destroy something in the most brutal way possible. Since the very dawn of time men have killed each other for whatever reason, even if it was no reason at all. One could look towards the bible as a means to verify this, with Cain and Abel, or you can have an ounce of common sense. One thing is for certain, war is a man’s activity. Likewise, there’s a ton (a ton) of reasons why war was fought. For resources, land, gold, power, etc. However, since ancient times, a common factor for fighting and killing were to find mates. This was a key factor in our evolution, and advancement in technology. The toughest male got the most desirable mate, their offspring carried on their characteristics, and their genes outperformed and basically killed off the other genes, creating a more perfected human. Different races and different types of people evolved differently to have advantage in different areas. Some were thinkers, some were warriors, others were engineers and scientists. Yet, all the same, there was competition to be the best; and that’s not a bad thing.

A woman wanted a tough, strong, alpha as her husband in early days for multiple reasons. She wanted a man who can hunt, who can build, carry heavy things, and protect her and her children if an invader should come around. Women were, and are, simply not designed to do the things men are designed to do. Likewise, men were, and are, not designed to do the things women are designed to do. I never once went to my father when I needed open arms, love, and encouragement. My father developed me physically, and my mother developed me emotionally. Following the trend of evolution, one would hypothesize that the smartest businessmen, the best sport players, etc, would be the ones to have the most desirable females. Men don’t just go into sports to get high off of adrenaline (although that is a factor), they don’t rise to the top of businesses and become CEO’s to just become rich. We compete for women, to impress women. Love is what drives a man mad. Love is what built skyscrapers, love is what put men on the moon, love is what conquers nations, and feeds the poor. Yet, all of that is disappearing. No, not competing for mates, but competing for love.

Ok. I know what you’re thinking, so I am going to address the elephant in the room before I get hacked apart by SJW’s. Fewer and fewer men who rise to the top of the food chain are looking for one woman to marry and be with, provide for, and cherish until death do them part. The majority of alphas quickly learned that they can manipulate evolution and use it in their favor. Why just have sex with one woman, when they can have sex with multiple women and not have to care for providing for them? Just have a good night, and leave or kick her out the next day. These types of men have been prevalent in just about every society since just about the beginning of time. Good women, naturally, rejected those types of men. They played hard to get, and so evolution was able to continue it’s process. Now? Well, a lot more men (better term would be “boy”) are hopping on to this “one night stand” bandwagon. Men just aren’t interested in good women anymore, because good women don’t want good men; and that is a bad thing.

Thanks to evolution, men are hardwired to be the providers of a family. It’s not uncommon, and not bad for a man to pull out his wallet and take the check at dinner. It’s natural. It’s not bad that a man would rather his wife stay home, then to go out and work. The question here is, is the reason for this because men are insecure and are afraid of an independent women? Or is it because they are naturally the provider and are built to be depended on? Or maybe something else? Quite honestly, I don’t know the answer yet. One thing I am certain of: men crave to provide.

There’s a crisis of manhood, and we know that. Everyone knows that. Men are afraid to get into a long term relationship, they’re afraid when their girlfriend or wife get’s pregnant. We also just don’t want to, because we don’t have to. Love is becoming more and more superficial. Love can come on a card that we sign and put money into whenever it’s someone’s birthday. Love has turned into complimenting someone who is ugly and lazy so that they feel good. Love has simply turned into feelings. I blame this largely upon the progressive movement, and “lady liberty” than the modern, third wave feminist movement. Although, the progressive movement has basically become the third wave feminist movement. There was the initial burger king slogan in 18th century France, “have it your way." Do whatever you need to do to make yourself happy. Are you seeing what I’m seeing here? People go into marriages/relationships expecting to be made happy, then once they realize it’s not working, they claim their marriage has failed and get a divorce. It is an actual psychological condition to be addicted to falling in love. And this is a terrible manifestation of a deep and horrid societal issue.

In order for a woman to be fulfilled in a relationship, she must do everything she can for the man she is in a relationship with. His happiness must come before her happiness. Likewise, in order for a man to be fulfilled in a relationship, her happiness must come before his happiness. Why? Different discussion…but check out this. Yet, if we take this fact to be true, and a common ground from which to build relationships, we can see a clear conflict with the modern tale as to how to obtain happiness. As I stated within my first article in this series, a common theme among modern, third wave feminism is “I don’t need to man”. Well, that might be true. You might not need a man. I might not need a woman; but, a man might need you. A woman might need me. Someone might need us. I’m not going to exclude those men and women who go into a single life, whether it be religious or not. Although a trend seems to shine through such a life, that they live a single live out of self service. Just imagine if every marriage was lived out of selflessness!

This is where it all boils down to: I, as a man, have an internal desire to provide for and care for a family. Every man has such a desire. Women (not a generalization of all women) have apparently become selfish of this (for whatever reason) and have devoted a lifetime and a half to making sure a woman is independent and so she can say “I don’t need no man." More and more women are taking upon this ideology, and as a reasonable response, more and more men are taking up the opposite ideology, “I don't need no woman."

Thousands of women across the country identify as feminists. They also, at the same time, condemn a lot of the philosophies and thoughts of other, modern feminists. However, it is modern feminism that dominates the media and influences pop “culture”. Either “true” feminists need to band together in a large movement and outright condemn the feminists who are destroying society by making it clear they're not true feminists, or it’s time to take on a different name. Either way, we men just aren't interested in you anymore.

(Please note, more articles are to come to talk more in depth about this crisis of manhood, and how men are just becoming more and more soft and simply don’t care. This is not something I blame on the feminist movement at all, but it is rather a deeper societal that has many roots. Which is why it deserves a whole other article.)