How To Fall In Love With Being Alone

How To Fall In Love With Being Alone

Because surprisingly enough, it can be just as fun as falling in love with someone else.

Often times, we’re under the impression that we need a significant other in order to be happy. We watch romantic movies, see pictures of cute couples on social media, read romantic novels, etc., and what happens? We end up feeling lonely, and end up feeling like we need a significant other to complete us. We fall in love with the idea of love and having someone to fall in love with, but what if instead of that someone being a significant other, we decided to fall in love with ourselves instead? Being alone can be surprisingly fun, and there are many ways to fall in love with yourself and being alone.

Find Your Environment

Environment can have a huge impact on your mood and your mindset, which is why it is key to find places that make you feel content, fulfilled, and happy. Once you find these places, don’t be afraid to go there. If you’re alone and in a stressful environment, you may be more prone to feeling as though you need someone to take away that stress, but if you’re in a low-key and happy environment, you may be more likely to feel content on your own. Some quality, low-key environments could be coffee shops, anything involving nature, libraries, etc. It depends on personal preference, but don’t be afraid to experiment and explore new environments as often as you want.

Take Yourself On Adventures

We often think that we need other people to go on adventures with in order for them to be fun. Yes, it can be fun to go on adventures with friends, but it can be just as fun alone as well. The perks of going on adventures alone is that it provides you with the ability to truly appreciate your surroundings and take in the adventure without the need to discuss it with anyone or document it on social media. You can truly do it on your terms and based on your preferences. Also, when you go on adventures alone, it becomes your own unique experience, and you don’t have to share it with anyone else if you don’t want to.

Expand Your Social Surroundings

Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean shutting yourself in your room and not talking to anyone. In fact, sometimes it’s refreshing to be around people and experience social interaction, and you don’t necessarily need to be alone physically to appreciate being alone. Sometimes when we spend a lot of time with ourselves we get bored and end up wanting to spend time with someone else, such as a significant other, but it doesn’t even necessarily need to be a significant other that we spend time with. Spending time with friends can satisfy in the same way as spending time with a significant other can if you allow it to, and spending time with friends and new people can not only comfort you and make you happy, it can also help you to appreciate the time you get to spend alone with yourself as well.

Explore Your Abilities

Sometimes we have a tendency to under appreciate ourselves and our potential. We get stuck in this idea of “here are my talents and interests, and nothing else”, and we forget that we have endless options to experiment with, and that there is untapped potential within each of us. We can sometimes get bored of ourselves, our lives, and our talents/interests, which is when the idea of having a significant other with new interests can sound even more appealing. Interests other than our own can sound exciting and intriguing, but a significant other isn’t necessary in order to experience them. You may feel bored, but that’s a perfect excuse to try something new and explore new possible talents or interests. The worst that could happen is that you don’t end up liking what you try, but the best that could happen is that you find something new that excites you and helps you embrace yourself and being alone.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

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My Love-Hate Relationship with Starbucks

This is my oh so wonderful experience at Starbucks during the week of midterms.


When I usually go to Starbucks, I typically get the same type of drinks: carmel macchiato, chai tea latte, chestnut praline chai tea latte (which sadly is only a holiday drink), or a shaken black tea lemonade with light ice. However, sometimes a person just gets bored drinking the same three drinks over and over, so I thought, "Hey! lets get out of our comfort zone here pal and try something new." So I did I walked my tired stressed out self to Starbucks 10 minutes before my next class and ordered a tall cinnamon shortbread latte, I mean the description and other peoples comments about it made it sound super good.

As I was waiting for my drink I noticed that one of the baristas was having some issues with some type of syrup, but I thought that they would refill it and then add what they need, and that one probably wasn't even mine. When they did that, I saw them get a new jug of syrup and I went back onto my phone and to try and plan how I was going to get through this midterms week.

Quick info about midterms: everyone is dead, and everyone is stressed. Us college students literally live off of caffeine during midterms week. If you're lucky like me you are at school from 8 a.m. until 6 p.m., so the caffeine is really needed.

Now soon after I saw the new jug come, my name was called. I grabbed my drink and walked like the walking zombie I was to my next class. I went in for my first drink I was so excited to have this sweet taste of vanilla, cinnamon and coffee...but what I got was the opposite. It literally tasted like a very burnt somewhat coffee and cinnamon edible without the marijuana affects, or for the non-edible people, a very bad tasting cookie that was missing all the sugar. I was not a happy camper one bit, but I was going to drink it anyway because I payed $4 for this coffee. I struggled drinking this during my writing class because it tasted terrible, but then out of no where I got this hit of sweet — I was drinking the sweet vanilla and the sweet cinnamon part of my drink minus the majority of the coffee since I was 3/4 done with the drink. I was seriously crying on the inside because I didn't get to enjoy this drink the way I needed.

Then the realization hit me: 1. They probably didn't add in the missing parts of the syrup once it got refilled since they suddenly got busy. 2. They did not stir that drink one bit because all the syrup was literally at the bottom of the cup. If they did these, then the problem wouldn't have happened.

This is not the first time this has happened to me having all the syrup at the bottom of the cup at a Starbucks. Its not like I am able to swish it around myself because it is full to the top and I don't want hot coffee poured or splashed on my hand. Also, most people are on-the-go while they are drinking their coffee or doing other things. I have only had this issue at Starbucks and never at any other place have I had this issue like Anthem Coffee.

So can Starbucks just agree to always mix their drinks? So that the zombie college kids during midterms have good coffee to keep them alive?

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