How To Fall In Love With Being Alone

How To Fall In Love With Being Alone

Because surprisingly enough, it can be just as fun as falling in love with someone else.

Often times, we’re under the impression that we need a significant other in order to be happy. We watch romantic movies, see pictures of cute couples on social media, read romantic novels, etc., and what happens? We end up feeling lonely, and end up feeling like we need a significant other to complete us. We fall in love with the idea of love and having someone to fall in love with, but what if instead of that someone being a significant other, we decided to fall in love with ourselves instead? Being alone can be surprisingly fun, and there are many ways to fall in love with yourself and being alone.

Find Your Environment

Environment can have a huge impact on your mood and your mindset, which is why it is key to find places that make you feel content, fulfilled, and happy. Once you find these places, don’t be afraid to go there. If you’re alone and in a stressful environment, you may be more prone to feeling as though you need someone to take away that stress, but if you’re in a low-key and happy environment, you may be more likely to feel content on your own. Some quality, low-key environments could be coffee shops, anything involving nature, libraries, etc. It depends on personal preference, but don’t be afraid to experiment and explore new environments as often as you want.

Take Yourself On Adventures

We often think that we need other people to go on adventures with in order for them to be fun. Yes, it can be fun to go on adventures with friends, but it can be just as fun alone as well. The perks of going on adventures alone is that it provides you with the ability to truly appreciate your surroundings and take in the adventure without the need to discuss it with anyone or document it on social media. You can truly do it on your terms and based on your preferences. Also, when you go on adventures alone, it becomes your own unique experience, and you don’t have to share it with anyone else if you don’t want to.

Expand Your Social Surroundings

Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean shutting yourself in your room and not talking to anyone. In fact, sometimes it’s refreshing to be around people and experience social interaction, and you don’t necessarily need to be alone physically to appreciate being alone. Sometimes when we spend a lot of time with ourselves we get bored and end up wanting to spend time with someone else, such as a significant other, but it doesn’t even necessarily need to be a significant other that we spend time with. Spending time with friends can satisfy in the same way as spending time with a significant other can if you allow it to, and spending time with friends and new people can not only comfort you and make you happy, it can also help you to appreciate the time you get to spend alone with yourself as well.

Explore Your Abilities

Sometimes we have a tendency to under appreciate ourselves and our potential. We get stuck in this idea of “here are my talents and interests, and nothing else”, and we forget that we have endless options to experiment with, and that there is untapped potential within each of us. We can sometimes get bored of ourselves, our lives, and our talents/interests, which is when the idea of having a significant other with new interests can sound even more appealing. Interests other than our own can sound exciting and intriguing, but a significant other isn’t necessary in order to experience them. You may feel bored, but that’s a perfect excuse to try something new and explore new possible talents or interests. The worst that could happen is that you don’t end up liking what you try, but the best that could happen is that you find something new that excites you and helps you embrace yourself and being alone.

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100 Ways To Practice Self-Care In Your Everyday Life, In 20 Minutes Or Less

Simple ways to start taking care of yourself.


Life is overwhelming and distracting so it's easy to forget about yourself sometimes, but practicing small self-care acts is easy. Making time for yourself every day isn't selfish and is really good for your mental health. I think it's important for everyone to spend time doing things that make them happy and more calm, even if you only dedicate 20 minutes each day. Putting yourself first can lead to growth so many other aspects of your life.

Obviously, each person is allowed to practice self-care in their own unique way, but here are some ideas to get you started!

1. Do something new. 

2. Make a list of things you need to get done that week. 

3. Drink some hot tea. 

4. Go for a walk on a scenic trail.

5. Paint your nails.

6. Have a good laugh.

7. Buy yourself flowers.

8. Light a candle.

9. Do some tidying up.

10. Don't feel bad for saying 'no.'

11. Listen to music.

12. Slow down.

13. Drink a smoothie.

14. Run mindless errands.

15. Write down your goals for the week.

16. Talk to someone about the future.

17. Wake up early and get coffee. 

18. Take care of a plant. 

19. Take a bubble bath. 

20. Give yourself a compliment.

21. Give a stranger a compliment.

22. Watch a movie.

23. Put your phone down.

24. Declutter your personal space.

25. Go to bed early. 

26. Pray or meditate. 

27. Go for a drive. 

28. Make it a habit to stargaze. 

29. Read a book. 

30. Read poems. 

31. Sing loudly. 

32. Make a list of things you're grateful for. 

33. Drink a lot of water. 

34. Put on make-up for no reason.

35. Watch funny videos. 

36. Take a deep breath. 

37. Distance yourself from negativity. 

38. Unfollow people you don't care to follow on social media. 

39. Have a pajama day. 

40. Read an inspirational book. 

41. Call your parents/ loved ones. 

42. Donate old clothing. 

43. Dedicate a day out of the week to not eating meat. 

44. Do a fun craft or DIY project. 

45. Put on a face mask and relax. 

46. Do a small workout. 

47. Take a power nap. 

48. Listen to a podcast. 

49. Open a window. 

50. Open your curtains in the morning to let in natural light. 

51. Make your bed. 

52. Cook dinner instead of eating out. 

53. Play/ cuddle with an animal. 

54. At the end of the day, think of all the positive things that happened.

55. Moisturize. 

56. Buy a comforting blanket. 

57. Give someone a hug. 

58. Create a vision board. 

59. Have some alone time.

60. Enjoy the sun on your skin. 

61. Dance like nobody is watching.

62. Walk in the rain every once in a while. 

63. Drive with the windows down. 

64. Give someone a gift for no reason. 

65. Get a massage. 

66. Do something that gets your adrenaline running. 

67. Spend the day at the library or a book store. 

68. Organize your work space/ binders. 

69. Spend a weekend in. 

70. Recognize hard work and reward yourself. 

71. Sign up for a work out class. 

72. Eat lunch with a friend. 

73. Spend the day helping others. 

74. Get your hair done. 

75. Have a good cry. 

76. Use sticky notes. 

77. Color code your planner. 

78. Print out pictures and hang them up. 

79. Hang motivational quotes on your mirror and read them when you get ready. 

80. Do random acts of kindness. 

81. Buy fuzzy socks. 

82. Redecorate or rearrange furniture. 

83. Be present. 

84. Set a new years resolution. 

85. Make a bucket list. 

86. Stretch in the morning. 

87. Watch an interesting documentary. 

88. Make a music playlist.

89. Watch the sunrise or sunset. 

90. Explore somewhere new.

91. Be slow to respond to negativity. 

92. Have a game night with friends. 

93. Buy concert tickets. 

94. Have a nightly routine before bed. 

95. Eat your favorite dessert. 

96. Do something you've been putting off. 

97. Invest in essential oils. 

98. Manage your finances. 

99. Buy a new outfit. 

100. Make your own gratitude list. 

Try at least one of these every week and see how you feel! I guarantee you will notice a difference in the way you are living your life.

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Poetry On Odyssey: A Stress Call

It's the most stressful time of the year!


It's the season of stress

When people seem the busiest

Final exams, presents and time

Students grades are on the line

Is it really the season of love and giving

Or are people too worried about money and winning

People stress about everything, big or small

It is not healthy all in all

Stress plagues peoples lives

People are too focused on "mine, mine mine"

In the world we live in, what can we do

About not having people or outlets to turn to

In a world with such confusion

And problems knocking at the door

Is anyone paying attention

To the call of the people anymore

Stress may seem overbearing

Or impossible to defeat

Keep your eyes on the dreams

You've always wanted to complete

Stress is just a roadblock

On the road called life

Continue to press on

It will be alright

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