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Stop Saying Sorry!

Is it too late now to say sorry?

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Stop Saying Sorry!
Woman's Health

Have you ever noticed how frequently women apologize? I mean, for absolutely no reason. We ask a question, we apologize. We knock on a door while our boss is in a meeting, we apologize. We don't give a tip, we apologize. We almost bump into someone and apologize. (See video below for more funny reasons we say sorry)

Although this video makes light of the situation (while bringing a ridiculous amount of awareness), why is that we say sorry?

I noticed this awful habit when my partner pointed it out: "Why are you apologizing to (insert random/professional name here)? You didn't do anything wrong." He continued to lovingly point out that I always move out the way for people. And not the move out the way where I can almost bump someone in a tight spot, or street samba with them, but when the sidewalk is huge and there is a bunch of space for people to walk through.

To my surprise, he was right; I do this a lot. The light bulb went off, and I took no notice of it. I place others before me, and not in the Mother Theresa kind of way either. Why am I saying sorry?

In attempts to see if it's just me apologizing, I started listening to women closely. We apologize a lot! I don't know why we do it, but we do. To convince you even more of my point, take a look at this Pantene ad.


I love this ad. In my opinion, it empowers women who habitually say sorry to overcome inferiority, and to do this they should remove the word from their vocabulary. I'm not saying that we should never apologize because sometimes life requires it, but it shouldn't occur all the time.

So, how do us over-apologetic users fix it?

First, being aware of where and when we apologize. Second, analyze and identify the feelings, values and beliefs attached in these instances. Essentially, you are digging a little deeper by having this inward conversation with yourself so you can start on the path of awareness and change.

Our reasons for saying sorry may be different, but if you notice that it is because of low self worth—I challenge you to stop using "sorry" and gain knowledge on how to be confident in yourself (whether through books or looking inward).

And remember: Your worth matters just like everyone else's.

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