Why I Don't Regret Dating Idiots
Start writing a post

Why I Don't Regret Dating Idiots

Even the worst things come with a positive.

Why I Don't Regret Dating Idiots
Sky Go

Yes, believe it or not, even the worst things can come with a positive -- no matter how dark or twisted it may seem. Now, I, for one, do not like to live with any regrets. Everything in life is a learning experience, no matter how much something makes you cringe when you think about it -- it taught you a lesson (or at least it should have). Disclaimer: If you are going to share this article to make excuses for a toxic relationship with which you are currently involved, please reconsider. While I don't regret dating someone who turned out to be the complete opposite of what was expected, I am in no way condoning continuing to talk to or see these idiots. I am simply sharing with you why I do not see a point in being ashamed of my past (keyword: past), and why you shouldn't either.

1. Life is too short to dwell.

Whether it was the first date and he "forgot" his wallet, or you've only been seeing her for a couple weeks and she's already planning out your wedding, everyone has their horror stories. Even if it was more serious of an issue, if you kept it in past and moved on, you're already winning. Don't hold it in, talk about it -- own your mistakes. Everyone makes them! It's in the past (there's that keyword again). There is no use in wasting time beating yourself up over something dumb when something great is right around the corner (yes, I promise).

2. It makes for one hell of a tale.

Talking about the outrageous encounters I've had has cued raised eyebrows and dropped jaws in complete disbelief. It always makes for an interesting conversation over dinner or drinks. Yes, he really wore sweatpants to dinner, and yes, he really left me to walk to my car alone at midnight in the middle of downtown, three blocks away from my car. Although I feel even more stupid for not recognizing the signs sooner every time I relive the stories, I can't help but crack up at myself and the reactions of my friends. Laughter is the best medicine.

3. You define your standards more clearly.

My first thought when going out on a date is always, "Is he meet-my-parents worthy?" If not, I automatically know it's not going to last. I was raised with enough common sense to recognize what is, or is not, a good idea. I make sure I can see a stable future with someone before I make a commitment. My parents do not dictate my love life in any way shape or form, but if I can't see myself having a relationship as strong as theirs with a certain guy (no offense to Mr. Almost), but he's not coming home to meet the family.

4. What's life without taking a little risk?

If you find "the one" right off the bat, how do you really know that's who you want to be with when you've never experienced anything else? You shouldn't base your relationships off of a compare and contrast chart, but by dating around, you figure out what makes you happy and what makes you suddenly desperate to find a way to support life on Mars.

5. Red flags are now more obvious earlier in relationships.

Once people show you their true colors, you start to recognize patterns. Everyone has his/her individual quirks, but you learn to listen to your gut when something simply doesn't feel right. This makes it so much easier to save yourself the hassle, and walk away before things get too serious.

6. Your weaknesses become strengths.

While you may scold yourself for being vulnerable, and not drawing the line sooner, try to see what you gained instead of what you lost. You realize how far you're willing to go, and how thin you're willing to stretch yourself for someone you truly care about. Although it may feel like you wasted your patience on the wrong person, that's OK -- it taught you more about yourself so you won't waste time making mistakes with the right person in the future.

7. It was fun... well, for the most part, anyway.

OK, no, I did not have fun running back to the parking garage, alone, in the middle of a dimly lit and deserted city campus, but I did have fun on the first few dates. It wasn't meant to be anything serious -- it was just something to do on a Friday night when I got out of work, wanted to kick back, and eat some free Chipotle. Do I wish anything negative on these idiots? Nope. In fact, I wish them nothing but the best and can only hope that they, too, took the positives from our short-lived flings. The most important thing is that we all learn from our mistakes, and try our best to improve for the sake of our future relationships as well as ourselves. Basically, just don't treat, or let anyone treat you, in a way that wouldn't make your mom proud. Remember, if this one doesn't work out, there's plenty of fish in the sea!

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
houses under green sky
Photo by Alev Takil on Unsplash

Small towns certainly have their pros and cons. Many people who grow up in small towns find themselves counting the days until they get to escape their roots and plant new ones in bigger, "better" places. And that's fine. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought those same thoughts before too. We all have, but they say it's important to remember where you came from. When I think about where I come from, I can't help having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude for my roots. Being from a small town has taught me so many important lessons that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

Keep Reading...Show less
​a woman sitting at a table having a coffee

I can't say "thank you" enough to express how grateful I am for you coming into my life. You have made such a huge impact on my life. I would not be the person I am today without you and I know that you will keep inspiring me to become an even better version of myself.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

college students waiting in a long line in the hallway

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less
a man and a woman sitting on the beach in front of the sunset

Whether you met your new love interest online, through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

Keep Reading...Show less

Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in Challah bread or Easter Bread?

loaves of challah and easter bread stacked up aside each other, an abundance of food in baskets

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments