We Don't Need The 'Date-To-Marry' Mindset Anymore
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We Don't Need The 'Date-To-Marry' Mindset Anymore

Stop letting society influence your dating decisions.

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We Don't Need The 'Date-To-Marry' Mindset Anymore
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Sure, it’s logical to think that dating someone you could see yourself marrying would be important. Just because it would be ideal to be with someone you’d want to spend the rest of your life with doesn’t mean you should throw out a relationship where your significant other doesn’t seem like your A++ perfect partner.

Dating someone can teach you so much about yourself, especially if your significant other is a wee bit out of your comfort zone. If they enjoy doing different things than you, you could be opening yourself up to hobbies you didn’t even know you loved. If their idea of a relationship doesn’t consist of being in constant communication, you might see yourself become a bit more independent than you have been in past relationships.

Not only does being with a variety of people teach you about yourself, it can also teach you about aspects of others that you may like or dislike that you never really thought about before.

Through the journey of dating different kinds of people you will begin to appreciate who you’ve become because of your relationships. In the same sense, you will be so grateful for everything about the person you eventually marry because you know why you love every last detail about them so much.

SEE ALSO: Dating As A Millennial Feels Like Hitting Yourself With Your Own Car

If somebody makes you happy and you enjoy spending time with them, there's no need to dwell on if they’re someone you’d want to spend the rest of your life with or not. Truthfully you are probably not as close to getting married as the world makes it feel you may be. It’s important to enjoy life and those who surround you while having different experiences. You will ideally be with the person you marry forever once you settle down, so there’s no harm in having fun while you are young.

On another note, even though someone may not seem like someone you’d marry the first few months or even year you’re together, doesn’t mean that they won’t surprise you. By being open to different relationships with different people you are opening yourself up to different opportunities. Maybe that person you never thought would be your ideal husband/wife will surprise you, and you’ll surprise yourself by ending up with someone you never expected but couldn’t imagine life without.

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