It sounds so cliche, but oftentimes the things we go looking for, things like love, are what we should let come to us. When you least expect it to, the world throws things at you that you never saw coming, and love is no exception. Even if you think that it's never going to happen to you, that you're never going to find the person out there that's meant for you, it's important to not only keep the faith that it'll happen, but live your life to the fullest until it does.
So often, I see both girls and guys who make themselves crazy trying to find a significant other. You know those people, the ones that are constantly dating or in a relationship that doesn't go anywhere for the sole purpose of being with someone. I've never found purpose in this, but I have for a while felt like I was choosing wrong for myself because I wanted a person, any person, to love me back.
It gets scarier as we get older to be single because we tell ourselves that the older we get, the less likely we are to find our soulmate. This lie we feed to our brain to make us think that with college, friends and jobs, that love is the only thing that truly matters, is an exaggeration of the truth. The truth is, love is important, and it's amazing when it's with the right person. But forcing it to happen by treating relationships like the be-all and end-all is not what love is supposed to feel like.
Before I started dating the wonderful man that I am with, I had resigned myself to the fact that I wasn't meant to find love. Yes, I am a drama queen and most likely always will be, but regardless. It's a common thought to have; the one that tells you that you'll be just fine on your own and that you can live for yourself. This feeling is both discouraging and empowering, depending on how you choose to exemplify it. If you go out into the world with a sad face, it can be a depressing way to live. However, if you tell yourself that love will happen, when it's ready and when it's meant to happen, then you will find yourself much happier than you were when you thought love was all that mattered.
It seemed like as soon as I stopped looking for it, it landed in my lap. I fell for my neighbor and good friend in June of 2015, someone I had known since January of that same year and never saw it coming into my life in a romantic sense. It was astonishing to me, once we did start seeing each other, that I had never considered it before; we go so well together that it seems like God had a plan all along.
Waiting for the right person, as impossible as it may seem in a generation of instant gratification, is the right call because it is so much sweeter to wait for something great than settle for something that is just not fulfilling. Your person is out there, and you'll know it when you find it, but until then just be patient. It'll come to you.
