Is it really so bad to be selfish sometimes? I mean, you're doing everything for anyone at the drop of a dime, when is there anytime to focus on you? In an effort to not disappoint, we often forget that in worrying about others you lose yourself in the process. That my friends, is not okay.
No one wants to be known as the person you can't count on but enough is enough. There is a breaking point where you just need to find some time and think about what is best for you. Does this make you a bad person? Absolutely not.
Take a spa day. I remember being in this place where everyone came before me. I didn't care what I looked like or the amount of sleep I got or if anything in my personal life was going okay. Nope, my only concern was making everyone around me happy and making sure I didn't disappoint. That took a major toll on my body. This was not okay with me any longer so I decided to go to a spa and it was the best decision I ever made. It was just me time and I didn't feel the stress of what felt like the world on my shoulders.
Finding a day to dedicate to the spa can be tough, I'll admit, so if there comes a time when I can't take the full day for myself, I take an hour to two and dedicate it to a workout. Breaking a good sweat releases endorphins which triggers positive energy into the body. It's like the drug you never knew you needed.
Organize your life with to do lists. It's a visual of what needs to get done and when you look back on it, you could fit in time for yourself. Or keep an agenda book. That always worked for me. Just remember that you can't take on everything that is thrown at you. Writing it down could also be the proof you need to see that you're being too hard on yourself. The idea of no being there for someone sucks and if the project doesn't go as planned, you feel like you're a let down. Be there for others but most importantly be there for yourself.
