Divorce is not so bad. My parents are divorced and I would like to think I turned out decent due to my parents not being together. It is not the only option for a married couple but sometimes it can be the best. In religion, particularly Christianity, divorce is a sin along with many other sins. If I remember correctly in the book of Matthew or Mark (do not hate me for not remembering the exact chapter and verse), divorce is only an option if infidelity occurs. It has been known in non famous and famous people’s relationship to stay with their spouse when infidelity occurs. In recent news, Beyonce’s Lemonade visual album was solely based on the idea that her spouse, Jay-Z, had an affair. Mary J. Blige has built a career on sad heartbreak love songs and recently announced she is divorcing her husband and manager.

There must be a great life after divorce. I cannot lie. The next Mary J. Blige album will be passionate and deep. A true Mary J. Blige classic. For musicians and artist it can be a way to express all of the emotions, particularly the pain, experienced during the relationship. Their emotions often lead to a large profit(i.e Beyonce’s Lemonade visual album). Yet, being married to someone and experiencing a divorce to me would be a new level of pain and a different kind of emotion. Imagine dating for years and never believing you could be with one person because of all the losers and ineligible men or women you dated. Then, you meet the one special person who changes the game for you. Upon meeting them, you know from that moment that they were just different or something special. So you hold on to that special person and eventually make the decision to spend the rest of your life with that one person. You chose one. Somewhere between being newlyweds and finding a divorce lawyer, you lost the love or desire to be committed to each other. I guess you do not know where you lost it because I would assume you would want to find it.

So I have this idea that divorce is like failure, it is a state of mind. I can understand the reasons of extremes to divorce or separate from your spouse(i.e domestic abuse, infidelity, murder). Excluding the ones listed below, I cannot think of a reason to leave your spouse. It is a known fact that marriage will be hard, challenging, and often frustrating. When you decided to marry your spouse or ex spouse, did you not pick them because out of all the people in the world they were the only person you would want to be in a hard, challenging, and often frustrating marriage with? I was taught that there are about 8 billion people in this world. After eliminating the ineligible, such as the unattractive or uneducated, you chose to spend your life with one person. You made a legal or spiritual vow to stay committed for eternity. If you have any plans to divorce your spouse, then you probably should not have gotten married in the first place. When I get married, I just know divorce will not be an option.