Yes, The Future Is Terrifying, But You Are Not Alone In You Fears

Yes, The Future Is Terrifying, But You Are Not Alone In You Fears

It is actually OK to not know what the next step of your life entails.


Recently, I have been really struggling with figuring out what I want to do for a career or just with my life as a whole. As a college sophomore, everyone tells you that "you have time" and to not worry, because "you will eventually figure it out." However, as right as they probably are, this does not reduce any ounce of stress within me. This is mostly because, yes, things will eventually be figured out, but they won't figure themselves out on their own. We might "have time" to make our life choices, but we still have to start thinking about them now.

As students, we are faced with an overwhelming amount of decisions that we have to make on our own in order to move on to the next step in life. And, I don't know about anyone else, but I definitely do not feel qualified to decide parts of my future right now as a teenager.

Nonetheless, we have to do it and we will (hopefully) get it done.

Now, even though I have been a complete wreck lately when it comes to making decisions and thinking about my future plans, I'm slowly trying to show myself that it is actually OK to not know what the next step of my life entails. It is perfectly fine to feel overwhelmed by the open-endedness and by the options because there are a lot of them! You can pretty much do whatever you set your heart to nowadays; it's just figuring out what your heart wants that's the difficult part.

However, we all have to take a second to step back from the decisions and evaluate ourselves. Are you doing what is truly right for you? Am I? We are the only ones that can answer these questions, so sit on them for a while. College is only four years long. To some, this seems like a lifetime. To others, four years is absolutely nothing. But, it's important to remember that college isn't for everyone. Partaking in four consecutive academic years isn't for everyone either! Gap years, part-time schooling, online classes, or even just holding off from school for a while are all completely viable options and will still allow you to succeed.

As important as college is, in the grand scheme of things it also may not be that important. Use it to your advantage. Major in everything that you find a passion in, or try out obscure classes to weasel out what you hate. No matter where life takes you, know that you do not have to compare your progress with anyone else. You will find your calling, even if it takes a little bit longer than expected.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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