Dear Future Husband,
I know it seems really early to be addressing you, but let me say, I can’t wait until God brings you into my life. I wasn’t one to play wedding when I was little. I was “that kid” who played in the mud with roly-polies, played with stuffed animals, and at one point truly believed that I was going to become a horse when I grew up. I was not your typical little girl, and I’m still not. But now that I have grown up and am a freshman in college, the idea of one day getting married is all of a sudden so very real to me. It blows my mind that one day I will have to share a bed with someone. For me, that’s an issue because I sleep so spread out that I deem it appropriate to apologize in advance for kicking you off the bed. The day I moved into college, my mom left me a letter with a section that read:
“If you continue to seek God passionately, you will continue to succeed. College is an incredible opportunity and experience. You will have some of your best days. You will meet some of your best friends. You might even fall in love. You will also have some hard, discouraging, and lonely days. On the best days and worst days—love God and love people.”
When I read this, seeing my mom write that I could possibly fall in love honestly freaked me out a bit. I didn’t feel like I should be old enough to potentially meet my future husband. There are times that I sit in my classes and wonder what life will be like after college. Will it live up to the hundreds of pins that I have on my Pinterest? Will you like dogs? (If you don’t like dogs that could be a potential deal breaker). Where will I live? Will I have a job that has anything to do with my major? All of these questions ran through my head, but when I went back and read the letter again, I saw a completely different perspective.
I saw this letter addressed to college freshman me, who was about to start a completely new chapter of her life where her family is not around, what is familiar to her is gone, and she has to start completely fresh in a new city with new people. But, I also saw this addressed to a me down the road when I finally meet my husband. I will have my best days with you. I will have some of my worst days with you. I will meet my best friend and have him in my life forever. I will fall in love. I will feel lonely, and discouraged, and things will get hard, but if I seek God passionately and you seek God passionately, then we can go through life confidently.
I know in today’s society girls have put these impossible expectations on men and are determined to stay single until their knight in shining armor comes to rescue them from third wheeling, lonely nights of Netflix, and taking home too many cats, but I have come to realize that if I don’t trust God with my future and chase after him, that that’s all my future husband will be: a fictional knight in shining armor. Instead, I need to trust that the Lord will allow our paths to cross when He wants us to. I need to trust that God will provide someone who will protect me, love me, encourage me, comfort me, hurt with me, and someone who will grab my hand to chase after the Lord together. I know that if you love the Lord more than anything, then you will love me unconditionally. I know that if you are confident that your strength comes from the Lord, then you will protect me. I know that if you see how Jesus was compassionate to “the least of these,” then you will show others how to feel cherished and cared for. I know that when God brings you to me that it will be perfect. The Lord knew we would end up together before we took our first breaths. Because our Heavenly Father was my first love and will always be, I can trust Him enough to introduce me to my second love. Until that day when God reveals what He has planned, I will continue to pray for you and all that He is doing in your life.
Sincerely,
Your Future Wife
