I interviewed a friend that goes to a college in the city and she has many stories to tell. I asked for her opinion on dating and what I learned is to just go with the flow.
So, for the guys, here is what a girl thinks about dating in college.
"Did you have a boyfriend in college?"
*Pause* Yes I had a boyfriend my sophomore year and we were together for longer than I thought we would be.
"How many boyfriends did you have in college?"
One, and trust me one's enough, hahaha JK.
"Are you still together?"
"What would you have changed about your relationship?"
I would've changed the time it took us to figure out what was best for us. I think we might have known what we wanted to do before we both made it official.
"Do you guys still talk?"
We still talk but definitely not the same as before. As time passes though I know we will eventually stop.
"Do you regret the relationship?"
No, because it was fun while it lasted. I loved getting to know that person and learning new things.
"How was dating in college for you?"
Well, he went to school far away in Georgia so, I didn't see him much, to say the least. As time grew I had many great times. But those great times led to doubt, doubt as to why we were together with so much distance between us. In the end, we ended it so we could live it up where we were.
"Would you date someone else maybe closer to your school whilst in college?"
Well, maybe if I found the right person I would not say no. But, as of right now I love focusing on myself and my life and it seems like it'll be a bit till I dive into something that deep again. As of now, I'm looking to just have fun and be around fun people.
"How do you like to meet guys?"
I like meeting people through people I know or the genuine people I meet. I don't usually go out of my way but who knows. Since I am out of the relationship I may have to at least say "hi."
"What's your plan for this upcoming semester?"
My plan is school, work, and everything in between. I am excited about possibly studying abroad in France and meeting so many new friends.
"Do you think you'll meet someone abroad?"
I hope! That would be so cool!
"How would you want someone to approach you at a bar?
Honestly? In an honest voice, someone who sounds conceded or like he has other intentions outside the bar can honestly take a walk.
"Are you on Tinder?"
No, in all honesty, I'm not a fan because I can't see this person in real life. I want to meet them not message or swipe.
"Do you have any tips for people who ended their relationship in college?"
1. It's not the end of the world — trust me.
2. Give yourself time.
3. Hang out with friends because they are great at making you laugh.
4. Everything happens for a reason.
I honestly learned a lot from speaking with this old friend and she is completely right. Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes it's easier to take care of yourself rather than others. I am thinking of writing this from the opposite point of view, and that should be even more interesting.