I’ve noticed that many men are immediately turned off by the concept of feminism. Despite how hard the facts are pushed, many men still see feminism is a rather negative light instead of the outlet for equality it presents. Feminism at it’s true core means that acceptance, equality, and loving others as they is necessary in order for women to be loved and valued for who they are as well.

Guys, I know it may be a scary idea, but dating a feminist will really pay off for your benefit. Virtually every component of the relationship will be equal and you will be uplifted in ways that a relationship with a woman who supports traditional gender roles cannot provide you. Since this accepting love and mutual respect carry heavily into a relationship with a feminist, dating a feminist may be the most empowering thing you could do.

1. Feminists exemplify true equality in a relationship

First and foremost, a feminist truly believes in gender equality, and this equality does not stop with a relationship by any means. We want to financially contribute the same as you do. We want to carry the same weights you do.

We want you to be as open with emotions and other factors of life as we are. Even intimacy is exemplified by the 50/50 concept that surrounds feminist ideals. Feminists want the relationship as equal as possible in order for both parties to be as happy as possible.

2. You won’t be expected to pick up the tab

Guys, this really takes the burden off your shoulders and should never make you feel emasculated. Feminists believe that women and men should be treated as equals, so using that same concept and applying it to finances is a great way for not only the woman to feel equal to you, but for you to feel like you’re just as appreciated.

3. The pressure is not on you to make the first move

To make a long story short, we know what we want and we’re not afraid to go for it. The playing-hard-to-get this is incredibly overdone.

4. Bump the gender norms – we will uplift you when you’re emotional

One of the most heartbreaking gender norms pushed on men is that men are incapable of showing emotions and crying without the fear of being seen as weak or inferior. Feminists call bull on this EVERY SINGLE TIME.Men are just as human as women and men have emotional needs that need to be expressed and met. If you want to cry or talking about something that you fear will make you look like less of a man, you’re safe to do this with a feminist. In this kind of relationship, your emotions will always be validated. Always.

5. Sex will always be an open topic of conversation

Forget the etiquette that surrounds sex talk. Sex is a natural and vital part of life and relationships. Feminists won’t hold back talking about sex to appear more “lady-like”, especially when you take into account that women love sex just as much (and sometimes more) than men.

6. We will carry our groceries… and yours

Literally, we carry all the groceries; however, what this also means is that we will carry equal weight in virtually every part of the relationship. Feminists do not depend on men for stereotypical gender roles. We won’t expect you to always take out the trash, carry the bags, or drive the car. Just don’t expect a feminist to always cook or do laundry.

7. Your dreams and aspirations will never be judged

Feminism is all about choice. People should be able to decide their own forms of happiness and pursue those forms despite how unorthodox they may be.

You want to be a stay-at-home dad? Dream of going to ballet school? Go right ahead. Just make sure you’re happy and are always trying your best at whatever you choose to do and trust that a feminist will always support you 100%.

8. We know where we want to eat

When you ask us where we want to eat, we’ll tell you without hesitation. There’s no need to act dainty and front about not wanting a BBQ baked potato.

9. We care about the wrongs you feel have been committed against you

Feminists pay attention to how men and women are treated differently. While we know the injustices committed against women, we also understand those that are committed against men. We want to know how you feel and what you have experienced. Then we will fight with you to right those wrongs.

10. Sex rules become bogus

We all have bodies. We all want to use those bodies. We all have a right to do what we wish with our bodies.

Feminists don’t care to look “sweet” or “lady-like” by waiting 90 days to have sex with you. In the eyes of a feminist, sex is natural and a big part of the fun in a relationship. No time to be prudes, here.

11. Drama will likely never be a topic of conversation or a factor in the relationship at all

Guys hate drama as much as feminists hate drama. Why? Because talking about drama requires being judgmental or putting another down, and that’s NOT what feminism is about.

12. We will tell you what we think (even if we don’t want to)

Part of being a feminist is talking about the things that make us uncomfortable. Fighting against gender issues requires a lot of uneasy conversations with difficult topics. Eventually, feminists embrace the idea and implement that open, honest, and carefree attitude about communication with every aspect of their lives.

In other words, if something is bothering us, we’ll put the guessing games aside and tell you directly.

13. You don’t have to take up for us. We got it.

Feminists have incredibly strong voices. We are capable of standing up to injustices in the world and fighting difficult battles, so why would we need you to defend us from the guy in the bar? Or the rude woman behind us in line?

Feminists don’t need a man with a savior complex because we don’t need anyone helping us stand up for ourselves. We use our voices and display out discontent well. Plus, they're our problems to deal with handling, not yours.