Times have changed in the world of dating. What used to be asking someone to go for a nice date, opening the door for their date, walking them to the door, politely thanking them for a wonderful time together has turned into something completely opposite. People had manners then. Nowadays, people are turning to dating apps, some just looking for a simple hookup. What happened to politeness? What happened to people looking for someone to be their significant other for life instead of just a quick hit and dump kind of thing. After watching so many people fail in their relationships, including myself, I decided to see what the rights and wrongs of dating really are. I mean in all honesty, if you’re going to date, you might as well do it right.
While I am sure there is a huge list of these somewhere on the internet, these are things that I felt were important to be discussed, especially as the modern world of dating continues to change.
The Wrongs:
- Being impolite- at least learn some manners, no one wants to date a pig.
- Looking only for a hook up instead of thinking of the future- if this is you what you are looking for, then go for it, but communicate that in the beginning before you are stuck in a complicated mess.
- Having no standards- It is important to know what you are looking for in a relationship. This could affect your entire future in the world of love.
- Leading people on- this is just disrespectful, don’t do it.
- Lacking communication- communication is key in building a strong relationship.
- Moving too Fast- not everyone is the same and is as ready for the next step in a relationship as you may be. Be patient.
- Lacking respect- respect should be a number one in any relationship.
The Rights:
- having a stable foundation- if your relationship doesn’t have a stable foundation, you are starting off with a rocky start, literally. A good foundation can set a strong baseline for the future.
- starting slow- rushing a relationship can be dangerous. Taking relationships slow allows you to become comfortable with your bf/gf and can lead to a relationship that doesn’t die before it even runs its course.
- GOING ON A REAL DATE- BOYS THIS IS IMPORTANT. A date is not just sitting on the couch watching Netflix. BRING YOUR DATE OUT.
- Having patience and respect- no person is exactly the same as you. Be patient and have the respect that each develops differently.
- Caring about the other person’s needs- Show that you care. It is as simple as that.
- Staying loyal- loyalty is so important in a relationship. Don’t cheat, it is as simple as that.
- Building your significant other up- a strong relationship involves positivity. Building your significant other up is important because it shows that you respect and care for them.
Dating can be a great experience, although there are always going to be ups and downs. Learn to be respectful of the other person, but also remember that a new relationship is new to both of you. It takes time and energy to learn about your significant other and what it takes to make the relationship the best it will be.
