The Dangers Of Calling A Female Fat

Fat: a three letter word with such a huge meaning. As females, we feel a constant desire to make a lasting impression. We have this fear of not being good enough, and we certainly long to be perfect. However, this three letter word makes it nearly impossible for any of us to feel anywhere close to perfect. It's a word that will forever be engraved in a person's mind.

The media does an incredible job at making females feel pretty much worthless. Whether it's the Victoria Secret fashion show, the magazines, or the movies, they all have similar standards for the "perfect" woman. The "perfect" woman is everywhere in the media, so how can we ignore it? If you're not tall, slim and stunning, then you, my friend, are certainly not perfect. If you have a little arm jiggle, you're ugly. If your thighs touch, you are overweight. If you happen to have a double chin, then that is the end, and you will never be good enough. This all sounds pretty ridiculous right? Well it's the truth. These thoughts circle through every woman's mind because of the control we allow the media to have over our lives.

Not only does the media itself do a great job at making women feel unappealing, but even the people that are closest to us may have contributed to this feeling of imperfection. The people we look to for comfort and support could end up being the ones that make us feel worse. They may not come right out and say what they're thinking, but as a female, that does NOT matter! Do not ask a girl if she wants to go to the gym, do not ask if she wants to eat healthier, and certainly do not tell her she looks thinner today. If you want to get your point across, then just call us fat because in the back of our minds, it all means the same thing. Now, thanks to your "subtle" hints, we will walk around even less confident than we were before. When we sit down and that "fat" roll hangs over our jeans, we will remember what you said. When we try on that bathing suit in the summer, we will remember what you said. When we are stuffing our faces with ice cream, we will remember what you said.

So what really makes the "perfect woman?" As a female who has had the "subtle" hints dropped to her, has felt the fat roll hang over the pants, and has been ashamed of the way she looks, I want to let you know that you're not alone. You are beautiful. So, the next time you go put jeans on that once fit, and now get stuck, I want you to go shove another spoonful of ice cream down your throat if you want because we all deserve to feel nothing less than perfect.