Keeping a dry eye during the dark times, and the good times isn't always a sign of strength. Life's got curveballs, and guarding your emotions will not get you through those times any easier. As a college student with a family, a job, and dreams, I have learned the hard way that I am not the tough girl who will walk through life without crying it out. Lets face it, what are we loosing when a tear falls down the side of our cheek, dignity? Strength? If anything, we are growing into the people we were meant to be, going through the things we were meant to face.
You are human.
You are not an inanimate object sitting on a shelf collecting dust. You have a mind, a heart, and you live. You grieve death, you will feel emotion and you will struggle. Hiding your emotion will not define your strength, so cry it out.
You will fail a test.
You were so used to being a straight A student all through high school, and you fail a test your first semester of college. Theres no going back now, and you can only improve from there. Cry it out and do better next time.
You will fight.
You will fight with your spouse, siblings, parents, friends, employers and neighbors. You will be cheated out of well earned money, you will be lied to, and your friends will betray you. Cry it out.
As a pet lover, you will hold your pets in your arms and watch them take their last breath. Speaking from experience, the tears are much less painful than the rock hard lump that will sit in your throat holding back the waves of extreme sadness, so cry it out.
You will experience heartbreak.
You will love and not be loved back. People will check in on you and tell you "It's all going to be okay." Out of sight, out of mind will not make the heartbreak disappear. Only time will ease the pain, but cry it out.
Utter happiness will flood your life at the moment you least expect it.
A walk down the aisle of your wedding, a new baby's first cry filling the room, a down payment on your very first house. Be proud of yourself, absorb the emotion and cry it out.
You will have no time for yourself.
You will spend years running around from dawn until dusk and you will be exhausted. You may be a spouse, a parent, an avid worker, and a "do-er." Do not let life drain what makes you "you." Cry it out.
Cry it out, take a breath of fresh air and start a new day. Give yourself a break and better yourself as you feel the emotion that life throws at you, but don't put up a front. Nobody wants a masked version of the person you are. Cry it out, and keep on moving.
