Everyone’s relationship habits are different -- what works for me isn’t necessarily going to work for someone else, and that’s totally OK. But what I don’t think is OK is a complete lack of trust. If you don’t trust someone, how and why do you stay with them? It seems to me like a lot of the girlfriend behaviors that are a tad on the crazy side are a direct result of a relationship where trust is a foreign concept.
I’m definitely no relationship expert, and it really isn’t my right to judge anyone, but sometimes I see something so crazy that I just can’t help myself. Here are some “crazy” girlfriend behaviors that I really don’t get:
Stalking his Instagram likes.
When I first heard this was a thing that some girls do, I was sort of shocked. It’s crazy to me that there are people who spend their time scrolling through lists of people who liked a particular photo to see if their boyfriend’s name is there. I can’t be the only one who absentmindedly likes pictures as I scroll through my Insta feed; liking a picture doesn’t automatically mean anything except that you spent .2 seconds double tapping the screen.
Going through his phone.
This, I think, goes back to that lack of trust issue I previously mentioned. Why go through someone’s phone unless you’re looking for something (specifically, something incriminating). And if you’re pretty sure you’ll find something you don’t want to see, maybe you should consider getting out of that relationship.
Obsessing over his exes, ex-flings.
If they’re in his past, they’re probably there for a reason. An exception: if you’re a rebound girl, you could have cause for concern (but I still doubt that obsessing will get you anywhere good).
Lots of PDA to show he’s yours.
If you see a pretty girl nearby and immediately jump into possessive-mode and jump into gross amounts of PDA solely to make sure everyone around knows that your boyfriend is yours, I’m guessing there’s not much trust between the two of you. C’mon, you deserve better than that.
Dictating what he can or cannot do.
What gives you the right to tell him what he can/can’t wear or do, where he can or can’t go, etc.? Are you his mother?
Getting angry when he wants to have a guy's night.
But also expecting to partake in girls night without a complaint from him.
Trying to totally rip him out of his friends’ lives.
I see girls do this and then (hypocritically, I might add) complain that their own friends stopped hanging out with them after getting into a relationship. Newsflash: your boyfriend’s friends probably want to spend time with him, just like you want to spend time with your friends who are in relationships.
These types of habits wouldn’t work in my own life, but if they're somehow helping your relationship rather than hurting it, then you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do. I guess it’s just one of those things I’ll never understand.