A few summers ago, I started watching "The Bachelorette" after never watching it previously. I had always been reluctant to watch it in the past and would ask why would someone want to watch someone date 25 people at the same time? There’s no way you can find love from that. But of course, as anyone who watches "The Bachelor" or "The Bachelorette" can tell you, you get hooked. Every episode ends with some cliffhanger or preview leaving you wanting more, that soon you begin to identify yourself as part of “bachelor nation.”
I’ve been hooked on "The Bachelor"/"Bachelorette" ever since that summer. And although I love to see other people try to somehow find love on a reality television show, I would never be able to do it myself. Here are some of the reasons why I don’t think I have what it takes to date the next Bachelor.
First of all, I don’t think I could get past the first night without being a nervous wreck. I already get nervous meeting new people so add that you are meeting someone that you want to like you and stand out against the other 25 people they are meeting, and that is just a whole new level of nerves. Not to mention, you are being followed by a camera crew for the world to see at a later date.
In the rare chance that I do make it past the first night, there are then another load of hurdles to overcome. One is being stuck in the house full of girls that are all going after the same guy. Once you’re in the house, there is basically no leaving unless you are going on a date. And you know the house always has at least one girl deemed “crazy” that you would have to put up with. Then there is also the fear that you would be crowned that season's “crazy” girl.
On a more serious note, I would not feel comfortable calling a guy my boyfriend that was actually casually dating several other women that I also happened to be living with. It also baffles me when the girls on the show call the Bachelor their boyfriend. Can someone really be your boyfriend if they also have several other “girlfriends” they take on dates and make out with when they are not taking you on dates and making out with you? I would say no. So then, if this bachelor was never really my boyfriend, how could I feel comfortable saying yes to a proposal at the end of the show? I couldn’t. Everyone that goes on the show says that they are looking for love and want to end up engaged at the end. For the most part, I believe them. But I could never be engaged to someone unless I had had a real relationship with them, and only them, (aka them only dating me and not anyone else) out in the real world away from the glam of bachelor dates around the world. I would want to know for sure that my future husband was 100 percent committed to only me and had not told a girl a few days prior that he was in love with her (like Ben).
So, although I could never be on "The Bachelor," I am forever grateful for the people that are on the show. However crazy they are or unbelievable their occupation is, they sure do make me look forward to Mondays.
