You hear it all the time, see it social media, and just plain think it too. The male characters from a the Sparks movies are the perfect guys. I see it and hear it all over the place. Women watch the movies and follow it up by stating how they wish they could be with a guy that's as loving as one in the movies. Convinced, however, that those men don't exist, I've seen too many girls settle for someone that's less than perfect. Sure, maybe the guy has a six-pack and a lot of money, but what they have in physical attributes, they lack in personality and caring.
The following is a list of some of the attributes that make these men so "perfect:"
They are extremely caring to the point of caring about the one they love more than themselves.
They are protective, not too much but to the point that they make the one they love, feel safe.
They are simple people, over the top gestures just aren't their style.
They appreciate the little things; walks on the beach, a night in with a movie.
They will always be committed to the one they love.
They will love that person more than anything else in their life.
I feel like these attributes sound a little familiar to me. Oh yeah, maybe it's because I embody all of these attributes. Aside from the physical differences that the men in the movies have, if you were to take away these six attributes, you'd be left with the stereotypical guy that breaks hearts and doesn't even care that they do. I know it may sound a little cocky for me to say that I have all these attributes, but I don't believe it is. I'm just confident in knowing who I am and how I treat those that I love; and no, I don't have a six-pack and lean cut muscles. I'm not out of shape, though. By definition, I would barely fall into the category of having a dad bod.
So why is it that everyone thinks these men don't exist? Maybe it's because the real nice guys in the world aren't given a chance because, more times than not, they are friend zoned by the exact women who wish they existed. All too often, women will get wrapped up in the thought of a guy having abs and huge muscles, only to miss the point that the guys in the movies would be the same even if they didn't have those physical traits. They settle for the less than ideal and suffer heartbreak and heartbreak, convincing themselves that nice guys don't exist.
This isn't a public service announcement for myself but for all the guys who are like me. We exist, you just have to find us because chances are, we are too nice to flat out tell you that. If we do say it, though, it's probably because we are fed up with seeing all these noncaring guys giving all men a bad reputation. We are not all the same, and chances are you know who we are, you just haven't given us the opprotunity.
