Is There Really A "Hookup Culture" At College of Charleston?

Is There Really A "Hookup Culture" At College of Charleston?

And, is it really such a problem?
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Is it any surprise that hook-up culture is so rampant at a college with a female population so much bigger than the male? CofC has a gender ratio of 37% male to 63% female. That's roughly two girls to every guy. No wonder, then, that our students have such a hard time finding a reliable mate, when every passing girl is an opportunity for an upgrade.

Perhaps it's a deeper commentary on the state of not only our schools, but our country as a whole. Hook-up culture is something that has become deeply ingrained in the way young people interact with one another, as both people and potential partners.

Beyond the social aspect, there is obviously the issue of the sexual. Sex is an act of intimacy, of trust. Or, that's what it should be. This culture has turned it into an endless pursuit of pleasure, with an adamant refusal to acknowledge any of the responsibility that inevitably comes with it. We've mastered the delicate art of building one-night bonds, and the even more delicate art of snapping them cleanly by morning.

There was an article once that said, "As our lives get longer, our relationships get shorter." The average life expectancy of an American adult is 27 years longer than our counterparts a hundred years ago. Back then, relationships were usually for life, since they matured faster and died younger. Today, the average relationship is only 2 years, and most couples blame social media for the split.

Divorce rates, too, are higher than they've ever been. It used to be that you could tell someone you're parents were divorced and they'd give you this sad, pitying look. Now, they barely look up from their phone as they mutter, "So what? Mine are too."

We, as a generation, lack trust.

CofC has that perfect mixture of a large female student body, a small campus, and access to the latest technology to make it into a breeding ground of broken hearts. While that may sound rather dramatic, in all seriousness the hook-up culture here has become a real problem. How can a girl trust a guy she likes if she doesn't know if he's getting some on the side?

This problem is a self-reliant beast, an Ouroboros eating its own tail, a pseudo-Pennywise without the 27-year constraint (*shudder*). Meaning, it won't stop unless we stop it. Maybe not with an actual metal pipe like in It, but perhaps with something just as ferocious.

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Why I Will Tell My Children To Wait Until Marriage

Abstinence isn't just a religious thing.
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Having grown up in the Bible Belt, I was an avid church goer as a child. Both the church and my parents preached at me that "abstinence is key." They always just said that you shouldn't do anything with someone before you're married because it is just the right thing to do. I always heard that it was just frowned upon, I didn't know that it could be devastating in the future.

Many of us don't wait until marriage. In today's society, abstinence isn't exactly the top priority of our generation. Personally, I didn't wait and fell into the demographic of being "normal." I thought maybe I could find love. I believe most girls convince themselves they can marry just about anyone down the road because it helps us accept what we do. When you are doing what everyone around you seems to be doing, it makes it feel as though it isn't as "wrong" as you thought it was when you are growing up.

Until I met the love of my life, that was my mindset. It wasn't necessarily wrong and it didn't impact anyone other than myself. It turns out I was very wrong. After numerous liars and jerks, I finally found the man that I have always wanted. The guy who gives us that dream that we all have as little girls, but gave up on as we grew older. Neither of us waited until marriage, and neither of us thought of each other. We didn't know each other until we started dating, but we didn't think of the one that we would one day marry. I never knew how someone's past could devastate me. I struggle daily with insecurities and comparisons to the girls he has been with. I don't want to, but I can't help it. I know that he feels the same way about my past. It causes distrust in a society where distrust is already easy enough to have. I never wanted to be that girl that compared myself to others, but it's hard not to think about the other girls and if they were better or if he still thinks about them.

This is why I will tell my children to wait. Not just because God says so, but because it does involve someone other than themselves. It hurts the one they end up marrying. It hurts them later in life. I want my children to do their part of not instilling this lack of confidence that I find myself struggling with. Maybe we can raise our children to be a generation where sex isn't just sex, and it means something again. If abstinence isn't appealing to you because of God, maybe it can appeal to you when you think of that dream guy or girl. Wait for him. Wait for her. Wait for yourself.


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5. Making Christmas ornaments

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