Why I Choose To Swim, Even Though My Sister Drowned
Start writing a post

Why I Choose To Swim, Even Though My Sister Drowned

This is for you Daisy Rae

Why I Choose To Swim, Even Though My Sister Drowned
Stephanie Barnette

I chose to write about my sister again because my first article meant a lot to the people who knew Daisy and my family.

Daisy changed a lot of people's lives and not just the ones that met her, she changed our country as a whole. Her death impacted many people and how they viewed swimming pools and just kids being around water in general. People were scared and hurting for our family, which was understandable considering the circumstances our family was having to deal with.

Instead of just dealing with it, our family was given the opportunity to cope with her death and begin to accept it and grow, which is what we all wanted.

The dolphins swim team was the first opportunity we had to cope. We still lived in the same house where Daisy drowned, but the pool would never be the same. We discovered the dolphins swim team from a family on my softball team, the Martin Family. They talked to my mom about what it involved and my sister Cassidy started the next season. I waited because I was playing softball and always believed it would be my sport, even though I wasn't really all that great.

Cassidy fit in well with the team and began building a relationship with the teammates and I became the manager and was given the nickname Smiley. My coach, Kevin Covington, quickly became someone who I would forever look up to and he was the one who started the smiley trend. He pushed me to join the team and of course, I did. Being a part of a swim team and having friends that turned quickly into family helped tremendously with dealing with the loss of my sister.

We started competing and traveling to different towns and building relationships with other teams. I was happy, but ultimately still believed I was a ball player not a swimmer by any mean sports. Eventually, I gave up on my favorite game in the eighth grade and began truly focusing on swimming. I won medals and trained day in and day with the dolphins and eventually the Gaffney High team. With the training, of course, came the wanting to quit and hating the sport. It comes with everything that is hard. I was pushed to keep swimming by my dad, who was there at every swim meet as an official and coach. I was pushed to stop wanting to quit and just enjoy the hard work and competition; and that ultimately led to me loving the sport.

I was asked multiple times why my family chose swimming even though Daisy drowned. We never had an honest answer, but over the years I've learned multiple things from swimming and real life.

1: If you got in a car wreck and someone you loved died, would you never ride in a car again?

No, of course, you would because you can't walk everywhere. You can't be afraid just because something bad happened in that one moment. You have to learn to forget and never let that one thing scare you or you'll live your life walking on LEGOS.

2: People cope in different ways.

It took me ten years to beat depression and finally be happy. It takes some people a life time and others just a couple months. People do drugs, cry, run off, create a new identity, find a hobby, or like me; I just to swim.

3: People will be there for you undoubtedly, you just have to open up.

There will always be someone there to help and you never have to worry about having someone or something. Swimming was my something. It gave me hope that I could survive this awful time in my life.

Swimming gave me hope when I was lost. Swimming gave me something to hang onto when I was drowning. Swimming gave me an easier way to cope with the death of my bestfriend.

I chose to swim after the death of my sister and I will never regret a swim meet, practice, workout, medal, or whatever because it gave me hope when all was lost. Swimming was and is my safe haven.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Student Life

20 Things I Learned By The Start of My 20s

No one expects you to have your life together by the time you're 20, because honestly, they didn't either.

Allyson Foutty

We are all often faced with many life challenges throughout the time leading up to our 20s. Before this time, and throughout it, we often look back at the things we've learned and how they've influenced who we are as people today. Some of my biggest influences were some of the challenges I've faced, but they've taught me 20 important things by the start of my 20s.

Keep Reading... Show less

The Boyfriend Recipe

The ingredients to build a relationship are a little more complicated than just a bouquet of flowers and a box of candy.


Relationships. Long distance or not, significant others are much more than just that. I would be lying if I said I did not love the sweet gestures that only a boyfriend can give. The flowers, funny phone calls, hand holding, breakfast dates, and tight hugs are special but my relationship and many others out there exist on much more than just these little gestures. It is a tricky concoction that consists of one part boyfriend and two parts best friend and would not work without one part or the other. While having a relationship may not be quite as easy as baking a batch of cookies, it has its own recipe (with a few variations for flavor) to follow for a good match.

Keep Reading... Show less
google images

Fashion just keeps growing and changing and old trends are made new! Now, I'm no beauty guru, just a beauty guru wannabe, but personally I have compiled some stylish wardrobe must haves! These can be cute assets to go back to school or just to catch up on some of the latest trends...

Keep Reading... Show less
Student Life

There's More To A Relationship Than Netflix

Summertime is only 93 days of the year, Find something to do!

Tallie Ammar

Summertime is ideal for more than just hanging out and binging your favorite TV series with your friends. Although summer does bring rain and thunderstorms which is perfect for those binging days, take advantage of those nice and sunny days. There is so many opportunities to get out of the house and enjoy the season before the snow starts to come back. Here are 25 interesting dates that are doable almost anywhere for any age.

Keep Reading... Show less
Leilani Encarnacion

Philadelphia has its beauty, but some of you may have not been to some of the most beautiful hidden spots in the city. This summer is a chance for new adventures and exploring, so here are a few places that I highly recommend you should visit at least once.

Keep Reading... Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments