Being in a relationship can be wonderful. I, as well as many other girls, are so jealous of those of you that have amazing boyfriends that would do anything to make you happy. I have, unfortunately, not found that guy yet and that is okay.
Guys love to play games with the good girls. They see you and they decide they want to talk to you. They find a clever way to speak to you, and then once they get your attention, everything is great. He does whatever he can to see that smile of yours and you think that he truly may be the one.
The first few weeks of your relationship are filled with cute little dates and super sweet text messages that you wake up to every morning. He offers to take you out to your favorite restaurant every weekend. He introduces you to his friends and even his family so you think to yourself that he must really be serious about you.
As the days pass, you notice slight changes every day starting with the way he speaks to you. He begins to sound agitated all the time and you don't like it at all, but you pretend that nothing is wrong. He stops making an effort to see you every day and gives you lame excuses that you could have gone your whole life without hearing. He starts to get super angry at things you do, that he has done to you before. But once again, you keep your thoughts to yourself as you don't want to risk starting an argument.
You finally find the strength to voice your concerns to him. He gets defensive and angry. He refuses to change for you and you're stuck. Do you stay with him and be miserable? Or you do you break things off and be miserable then too? It is all up to you.
You finally decide that enough is enough. You give him one last chance to dig himself out of the hole he has dug for days or even weeks now. He chooses not to and you leave him, broken as ever.
For the first few days, you can't even breathe much less eat or sleep. You will feel the aftermath of him for weeks, maybe even months. You feel like you'll never be yourself again and to be honest, you won't. You will realize that he changed you, but for the better.
You will learn to take time for yourself again and the activities you love. You'll make time for all of your friends including the guy friends you blew off just for the guy who crushed you.
You will no longer take the good guys for granted like everyone else. You will learn to cherish them unlike you did before. You will treat every guy that comes in to your life so well as you know how it feels to be mistreated every day.
Choose to make yourself happy, and the right guy will come your way and make you the center of his whole world. Until then, enjoy being young and have fun.
