Check In On The Friends You Think Are Fine

Check In On The Friends You Think Are Fine

You'll never know how they really are unless you slow down and talk to them.


I have 372 Facebook friends and my new profile picture just hit 31 likes.

Sometimes I have to mute messenger notifications because I just get so many.

I have a Snapchat streak that's 584 days (and counting) and six others that are on their way.

I can't go to my classes without someone saying "hi" or "you look great today" or "I missed you. How are you?"

But I am so lonely.

I have 372 Facebook friends, but at night when I'm in bed, I shake and gasp for air because I can't stop crying and sobbing over the idea that at the end of the day, I am alone.

My new profile picture just hit 31 likes, but I get off Facebook and look at my face in the mirror and I can't understand why anyone would hit like when I would rather hit myself full speed with an oncoming car.

I get Beaucoup messages with funny pictures or memes, but I wish someone would get the message that I'm never happy, even when I'm laughing, even when I'm asleep. I am never happy.

I have Snapchat streaks that would make other people jealous, but the second I try to dig a little deeper, they log off. Because carrying on a conversation is so much more work than just sending a picture of their ceiling and watching the number climb.

I can't go into a class without someone saying "Hi, how are you," but if the answer is anything other than "I'm doing great. How are you," they get uncomfortable because it is a formality and nothing more. No one wants to hear your struggles. They only want to talk about theirs. They ask how you are not because they truly want to know, but because they want to talk about theirs. No one wants to listen, we all just want to talk.

We forget that just because someone smiles at us when we pass them on the street, that doesn't necessarily mean they're okay.

I could have tears running down my face, but I will smile at you when I see you in passing because that's what humans do.

We want to believe that everything's okay and no one else is going through the pain that we're going through.

We focus on the sobbers, the ones who don't leave their rooms, the ones who wear long sleeves in the summertime; but we forget that there are ones who only cry when they're alone, who are involved in every activity you can think of, who know how to strategically place self-harm marks so you can't see them no matter what they wear.

Take the time out of your day to check on your strong friends because maybe someday, they aren't so strong and could really use someone to lean on.

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14 Fraternity Guy Gifts Ideas, Since He Already Has Enough Beer

Frat boys are a species of their own and here are some exciting gifts they will be ecstatic to receive!


What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

1. Beer holster belt

Whats better than one beer? Six beers! This fashionable camouflage accessory can be used for tailgates, beach days, formals and everything in between.

Price: $8.49

2. Phone juul holder 

You know those cardholders everyone sticks on the back of their phones? Well, now a Juul holder for your phone is on the market! This will save your favorite frat boy from ever again losing his Juul!

Price: $10.98

3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

Price: $1.95

4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

Price: $28.46

5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

Price: $12.00

6. Condom case

This condom carrying case will not only protect condoms from damage but also make frat boys more inclined to practice safe sex, which is a win-win situation!

Price: $9.99

7. Frat house candle

Ahhh yes, who does not like the smell of stale beer in a dark, musty frat house basement? Frat boys can make their apartment or bedroom back home smell like their favorite place with the help of this candle.

Price: $16.99

8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

Price: $6.50

9. Natty Light t-shirt 

Even I will admit that this shirt is pretty cool. The frat boy in your life will wear this shirt at every possible moment, it is just that cool!

Price: $38.76-$41.11

10. Natty light fanny pack 

This fanny pack can absolutely be rocked by any frat boy. The built-in koozie adds a nice touch.

Price: $21.85

11. Bud Light Neon Beer Sign 

A neon beer sign will be the perfect addition to any frat boys bedroom.

Price: $79.99

12. Beer Opener

Although most frat boys' go to beers come in cans, this bottle opener will be useful for those special occasions when they buy nicer bottled beers.

Price: $7.99

13. Frat House Dr. Sign

Price: $13.99

Forget stealing random street signs, with this gift frat boys no longer have to do so.

14. Beer Lights 

Lights are an essential for any party and these will surely light up even the lamest parties.

Price: $17.19

Please note that prices are accurate and items in stock as of the time of publication. As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

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If Only My Best Friend Wasn't 749 Miles Away

Distance really doesn't change a thing.


People say that absence makes the heart grow fonder and maybe it does, but all I have learned from being so far away from my truest friend is that distance doesn't change anything. She is still the same kind of friend she was when she lived two miles down the road. I still call her when I've had a bad day or when juicy drama happens. She is always the first person I call when the boy I have a crush on says hey to me.

Distance hasn't changed our friendship in the slightest, but these are all the things I wish were still an option for us.

1. Go to movies again.

Going to the movies was our thing. It wasn't a once a week thing either, multiple nights were spent at the movie theatre and honestly our best memories come from the drives to and from some really great and even some really bad 9:00 pm movies.

2. Eat dinner together. 

You forget how precious your favorite restaurant is until you can't eat it with your bestie anymore. You know that place you eat at least 4 times a week? Yea, try going again and not having your best dinner date with you... it changes everything.

3. Not study together. 

Picture this - night before a huge test, you're sitting at a table with your friend and all of a sudden you're planning a Christmas cruise. Failing out of college just isn't the same on your own.

4. Have someone to go everywhere with you. 

Yes you have other friends, but the thing about that one best friend is they never say no when you want to go somewhere. It is just understood that you won't go alone.

5. Get a ride. 

Picking you up from class, a date, anything it just isn't the same when you're trying to escape and you have to drive yourself or get another friend to pick you up.

Somethings honestly and truly are not the same without your best friend. Even with other close friends all those things just don't compare. Sure, you have people to go to the movies with or to pick you up or even to go to random places with, but the memories are so much different. There isn't always the chance to say "dude you remember that one time" with another person because you can say it but they definitely will not remember.

Long distance friendships are not fun, but they are worth it. Distance may take them away from you, but a true bestie will stick with you always even if there are hundreds of miles separating you. It helps you appreciate trips to Walmart and movie nights so much more because life far away from your best friend is honestly just empty.

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