Being empathetic is a God given blessing. Read that line again. Being empathetic, to where you can help so many people because you feel so hard is a blessing. It is a blessing that takes time to fully understand. It is a blessing that needs boundaries. But it is a blessing, and I am so thankful to have it.

Setting boundaries takes time. Having boundaries are important. Learning how to take this gift and use it in a healthy way will change your life. I love being the friend therapist. I love being the shoulder to cry on. Now I also love being able to understand my own emotions and not just taking on others. I understand how important it is to disconnect from some emotions because it is absolutely mentally and physically draining to hold on to these.

Being a person who cares about someone will always be valued. You are more than what you do for others. You are more than deserving to take time for your own self-care.

So why does nobody talk about this? No one wants to seem like they are pointing the finger at anyone. I am not blaming my friends, I am blaming the idea that I had to put myself last. Talk to your empathetic friend. Check in with them. Ask them how they are feeling, and their feelings alone.

Being an empathetic person sucks, but I would not want to be any other person.