" Virginity" is the one thing that is most important to almost every teenager. Whether you have it or you are saving it, it's a hot topic. So, what about those who saved their virginity? We're known as "prudes" or "innocent little kids." People say we are missing out on stuff and that we need to "test drive the car" before we get married. But what are the pros and cons of keeping that v-card?
PROS:
1. Having the ability to say that you are "pure."
Being a virgin myself, I must admit there is something proudly to be said about being a virgin. The reaction is crazy from most, but after much convincing it turns into shock most of the time. A lot of questions are asked and then respect is welcomed. Older adults congratulate you with a pat on the back, adults your age are amazed, kids look up to you, and my favorite of all: men are delightfully intrigued.
2. Not having to worry about getting pregnant or STDs.
That right there just speaks for itself.
3. The complications that come with sex.
So, I've heard sex is pleasurable and one of the best things on Earth, but it can also be emotionally and mentally draining. Factors such as having sex with the wrong guy, feeling like you’re being used, trying to keep a man with sex, the temptation of cheating, worrying if you’re good in bed and other things are non-factors for virgins.
4. Receiving a certain level of respect.
I don’t know about most girls who are virgins, but the few that I know and myself get a level of respect from people, especially from guys, that non-virgins don’t get. The fact that I’m 20 years old and still a virgin amazes many people. I suppose since girls are losing their virginity at the ages of 12 it is shocking to find a girl over the age of 16 who is still a virgin.
5. Less shaving
I know every girls dreads that; at least I know I do. "Well no one is touching me so it's all dandy so no shaving this week!!" I'm kidding somewhat. No need to shave is what I call FREEDOM.
CONS:
1. Not every guy is into it.
You'd think guys would be into virgins, but I have had my fair shares of being turned down because of it. There is nothing like talking to a guy for a few weeks and you finally tell him and he goes MIA and you never ever hear from him again.
2. Other girls have "one up" on you.
Lets say you and this girl, Sally, like the same guy and he thinks you both are cute, but once he finds out she's down for all the freaky things that you won't do, it's a done deal.
3. The ability to feel like not being sexually experienced is horrible.
I don’t know about some people, but when I meet girls younger than me and they sit there and talk about all the sex they’re having I feel so out of place. I’m just like, "You’re 14 and having sex and I’m 20 and am not." It’s as if you instantly feel less mature than they are for a split second.
4. Not being able to play Never Have I Ever.
You could lie, but that just isn’t in the spirit of the game.
5. Your little siblings are more experienced than you.
It just becomes awkward for not just them, but also you, when they come to you for advice or when it comes to anything to do with sex. Might be time for you to just give them a book to read.
