Breastfeeding in public is ok

If You Have A Problem With Women Breastfeeding In Public In 2019, You're The Issue

Free the nipple.

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I recently read an article shaming women for breastfeeding in public and was shocked by what I read. The woman who wrote the article basically tries to defend her stance by slut-shaming other women. The author states she would call a woman wearing a low-cut shirt a slut, so why is it okay for women to whip out their boob and breastfeed in public? I will answer that question for her.

The biological reason women have boobs is to be able to feed their offspring.

I'm unsure where this gets lost in translation for people. Breasts have become so oversexualized in society, people tend to forget what they're actually there for. You use your hands and fingers to pick things up, you use your legs to walk and run, so why is it that women are being shamed for using their boobs for exactly what they're there for? Had society not completely altered how people view boobs, we would not have this problem.

This is not to mention the slut-shaming I mentioned previously. I don't believe that calling a woman a slut for the way she dresses or her sexual decisions is EVER okay, but especially not in this case. A woman is allowed to do whatever she pleases with her body. Whether it be wearing a turtle neck or a tank top, a super push-up bra or bare-nipples, it's no one's choice but hers. Breastfeeding, in no way, should be looked at as inappropriate or sexual considering its biological nature.

As for being "disgusted" by a woman feeding her child, get over it. I'm not sure what could be so gross about a woman's body and the gift of reproduction but it sounds like a personal issue. As far as I'm concerned, women being able to feed their children with their own bodies is amazing, truly badass, and something to admire them for. The author of the article mentioned she wouldn't like to see someone's bare feet while she's eating, so she doesn't want to see anyone's boobs either. Would someone putting their bare feet on the table while they're eating help feed their child? Would their feet have anything to do with eating? No. That's why it would be inappropriate.

A woman sitting in a restaurant feeding her child during lunch or dinner is not inappropriate, but your view of it is.

The problem with women breastfeeding in public is the way people like the writer of that article are viewing it. She's not pulling her boob out to try and impress anyone, she's not doing it for attention, she's simply doing it because her child needs to eat and that's the way it has to get done. If you're finding a way to shame women or sexualize breastfeeding, the problem comes from within. After all, it's really as simple as using your neck for what it's there for, just as she is using her boob for what it's there for, and turn the other way while she's feeding.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.
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Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.

Why?

Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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The Problem With Men

The damage of toxic masculinity.

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Toxic masculinity is deeply rooted in stereotypes held for the male population. It's characteristics are a constant outward appearance of being strong mentally and physically, a suppression of emotion, and a violent behavior to assume a presence of power. The problem with men isn't men themselves, but societies reinforcement of these qualities defined as toxic masculinity. Nevertheless, men are still responsible for their actions and should hold themselves accountable.

Toxic masculinity causes problems for everyone, but it is particularly harmful to women. It is a contributing cause to domestic violence, sexual harassment, and rape. The United States has begun to recognize these issues and people have come together to fight them. What becomes overlooked, is the damage toxic masculinity has on men. The constant need to be strong and conceal emotion is extremely harmful to mental health. We cannot all be strong all the time, but that is the societal standard for men. This can be a contributing factor of increased suicide rates and decreased mental health in the male population. The need to prove power through violence could also be a reason for the overwhelming amount of men to women in the prison population. Some examples of the lesser effects of toxic masculinity are the assumptions that boys cannot play with dolls or like princesses, that men cannot wear dresses or skirts, and that men cannot be interested in makeup or clothing. This greatly limits individuality and outer expression for men. Girls have gained the acceptance to play with trucks or like superheroes, women can wear pants, and can be interested in cars or tools. There is still a long way to go for women, but for men, the battle for these simple things has not even been won.

Toxic masculinity stems from the fact that men are still held as superior to women. To show emotion, or to be 'weak', or to do anything that makes them akin to women will undermine their societal superiority. Inequality of the sexes has led to the issue of toxic masculinity and it all comes from prejudice and discrimination against women. To fix toxic masculinity we have to address the issue of perceived inferiority of women. Men cannot get completely better until the problem that births all the rest, is solved.

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