To My Boyfriend Who Wants To Be An Officer, I Am Scared For Your Life As You Protect Mine

To My Boyfriend Who Wants To Be An Officer, I Am Scared For Your Life As You Protect Mine

You are debating on accepting the call of duty as I am struggling to you thinking about it.


I told you from the very beginning I would support you in anything you chose to do; I just didn't think it would be this hard.

You told me today that you wanted to become a police officer. It is a noble duty, a respectable and honorable one, but one that leaves me feeling heavy-hearted.

When you first told me, I was more in denial. I thought you decided because you felt like there were no other options. I went through different websites trying to find things you might enjoy instead of this, but nothing worked. Why should it? This is what you want.

I want you to be happy, I really do, but as I am writing this, I am pouring my eyes out. Having the tears drip on my keyboard because, in my heart, I ache. I think of our future together and how one day we would have a home and child, and then one day you're not there. I see the late nights you come home stressed from your work day and I can't really do anything to help. I see the missed birthdays, Christmas days, and anniversaries. All because your heart is so golden, so pure to put your life on the line to protect the people around you. Including mine.

I know this is an honorable job and one you have wanted for a long time. I just need to process it. This won't be what it is like on TV. Not like "911" or "Chicago PD" or those other shows that people watch every Monday night in the comfort of their living rooms.

No, this will be our lives. Our reality.

Everything on the news will be magnified. I will be watching every day making sure I don't see your name on the screen. Police corruption, miscommunication, etc., will be tied in. I am a worrisome girl, you know that. But I will eventually be at ease.

But I do want this for you. I want you to do this and I will not stand in your way. But please do this for you. Not for me, or your family, or to make instant money. But because it is deep in your heart and you can see yourself doing it for a long time.

I want you to work hard. I will run the miles with you, I will help with the push-ups, heck, I will even go to a shooting range (only once, because they scare me a little). I will do everything I can to show you that you're it for me; and even though I am scared out of my mind about this. I know that God will have you every day you step out of the door.

-Your #1 fan

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Not Being Attracted To Another Race Doesn't (Necessarily) Make You Racist

And on the flip-side, being more attracted to one race doesn't (necessarily) mean you're fetishizing them.


From the get-go I want you to know that I acknowledge that this is an unpopular opinion, but it is a strong one of mine that I would like to voice. Please don't get offended if my opinions differ from yours, that's life, deal with it!

I'm sure you've noticed, either within yourself, someone close to you, or someone not so close to you but who you pay attention to their love life anyway for whatever reason, that they tend to date certain types of people. And no, I'm not talking about the idea of having a "type," which I tend to disagree with fundamentally because if you lined up all my exes I don't think they would look similar enough to support the idea. I'm actually talking about race here.

For example, I tend to date white people, but I have dated people of other races, and I will probably continue to as well. I just tend to be more attracted to people who fit my racial category than anyone else, and that's okay. I'm not averse to dating people of other races, I just haven't found myself attracted to people who fit those racial categories. In these cases, I'm not dating that specific person because I am not attracted to that specific person, not because I'm not attracted to people of their race.

Where this kind of situation becomes not okay and does turn into racism is when someone is attracted to someone of a certain race but specifically won't date them because of it. I knew a couple of people like this in high school and in college and whether they realized it or not, they were being blatantly racist for no apparent reason. Hence, I have inserted the keyword "necessarily" into the title of this article. Does it make sense now?

How about on the flip-side. If someone tends to only date one race or is mostly attracted to people of a single race, it doesn't mean they're racist in that respect either. They may be in the same boat as the first side. Anyway, in some situations, people do fetishize a certain race or fetishize being with someone of that race, especially if it differs from their own. Seeing as there seems to be a fetish for everything nowadays, we shouldn't be surprised necessarily, but that also doesn't excuse it from being racist.

Another important factor in these ideas is who you are exposed to most. If you are a white person in a majorly white neighborhood or state or whatever size area and you stay in that general area for most of your life, you're more likely to end up being attracted to, dating, and probably marrying someone of your same race just because those are the people you interact with. No racism needs to exist for the outcome to be the same.

We need to learn to separate a person from his or her race. Race does not define a person unless they want it to. But a person's race isn't the only thing someone else will be attracted to. Get it out of your heads that it is.

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Grandparents Who Raise Their Grandchildren And Relatives As Parents Make A Huge Difference

Having hope when parents are not in the position to be there.


As a young girl growing up, my grandparents took me under their wing and raised me like their own. I never knew much of what it meant to be raised by grandparents and other relatives and how much of an impact it had on people like other people and me. Many grandparents and other relatives raise children, and people looking from the outside in don't have much knowledge on how much of an impact this has on children affected by it.

Many reasons place children with relatives other than their parents — for example, sudden parent deaths, military deployment, rising drug epidemic, incarceration. When situations happen that place a child ineligible to be raised by their biological parents, it changes not only the child's life but the caregivers' as well. Many caregivers have already had their children and shift their entire lifestyle to fit another's children into their life. Having that person that is not obligated to become a parental figure gives a positive image and hope into the child's life.

Hope. A word so little but holds loads of power behind it and symbolizes different things for each person on this Earth. As a child that was raised by grandparents hope meant finding the stability, being able to know that I could dream, and I can be a symbol of hope to others. Some people, when they hear that a child was not able to be raised by their biological parents immediately feel a sense of sorrow towards them. Instead of looking at the children as a symbol as sorrow or troubled people should look at them as a sign of hope. These children should represent a symbol of hope for the future, a symbol of strength, and a symbol of courage. These children have been able to face their situations head on and get through them even with the grief, fear, and hopelessness they may feel at times.

Getting the chance to have a place to call home, people you can call family, and dreams that can be called a future is just a little part of what a parental figure other than biological parents can do. They give a sense of readiness for the days ahead and the challenges that may come in the paths forward. Out of all the change that caregivers can make in a child's life, the most important one is giving children a second chance to live an experience they will believe worth living.

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