Your Body Does Not Equal Your Worth

Your Body Does Not Equal Your Worth

The battle and beauty of finding worth in who you are.
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So, tell me. How many times have you looked in the mirror and thought something along the lines of: I'm worthless. I hate my stomach. Maybe they'll be into me if I lose 10 pounds. I feel disgusting. I look like a pig. I hate my thighs. My butt has so much cellulite. Great, up another pound. I hate my body. My stretch marks are so ugly. No one will ever want to date me with acne like this. Ten times? Fifty times? Every single day of your life? If you're struggling with body image, self love, or body dysmorphia, I want you to understand and recognize that your body is not equivalent to your worth. How your body looks in the mirror does not determine that, nor does the number on the scale. It's easy to preach, but hard to convince, so say it with me: I am worth more than the physical appearance of my body.

Have you ever gone through the drive-thru somewhere and paid for the person's order behind you? Right, that was your flat stomach and six-pack abs that did that. Have you ever held the door open or carried items for someone who was unable to? Right again, that was definitely your giant biceps that prompted you to do such a nice act of service. Ever helped the homeless? Ever donated food or other items? Ever gave an extra big tip for phenomenal service? Yep, the glutes made you do it, I know.

Doesn't that sound absolutely ridiculous? That's because it is. You do those kinds of things because of the person you are, not because of your physical features. Your heart and your entire being are the reason you do what you do. Maybe you gained 10 pounds over the holidays, maybe your pants fit a little tighter, or maybe you don't feel as confident in your once "go-to" outfit, but that doesn't mean you aren't the same phenomenal, dedicated, passionate, and driven person. Those are qualities that don't change even when your body does. Whether you are 90 pounds, 120 pounds, or 220 pounds, overweight or underweight or anywhere in between, you are still the same person with the same heart. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be to accept and love yourself in all forms.

Finding worth in who you are as an individual and dissociating that from your body completely isn't an easy task, but put it in perspective: Are you kind? Are you empathetic? Are you supportive? That is what's important and noteworthy. Once you're able to separate the two, the line between what matters and what doesn't becomes crystal clear.

The struggle is part of the battle, which is part of the victory. You become stronger, smarter, and more resilient each and every day. Today is the beginning of a new mindset and fresh outlook. Have faith in yourself to overcome your mental and emotional battles, because you can. You can win. You can come out on top. And you will. You will succeed, and you will conquer.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.

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To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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In Real Life, 'Plus Size' Means A Size 16 And Up, Not Just Women Who Are Size 8's With Big Breasts

The media needs to understand this, and give recognition to actual plus-size women.

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Recently, a British reality dating TV show called "Love Island" introduced that a plus-sized model would be in the season five lineup of contestants. This decision was made after the show was called out for not having enough diversity in its contestants. However, the internet was quick to point out that this "plus-size model" is not an accurate representation of the plus-size community.


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It is so frustrating that the media picks and chooses women that are the "ideal" version of plus sized. In the fashion world, plus-size starts at size 8. EIGHT. In real life, plus-size women are women who are size 16 and up. Plunkett Research, a marketing research company, estimated in 2018 that 68% of women in America wear a size 16 to 18. This is a vast difference to what we are being told by the media. Just because a woman is curvy and has big breasts, does NOT mean that they are plus size. Marketing teams for television shows, magazines, and other forms of media need to realize that the industry's idea of plus size is not proportionate to reality.

I am all for inclusion, but I also recognize that in order for inclusion to actually happen, it needs to be accurate.

"Love Island" is not the only culprit of being unrealistic in woman's sizes, and I don't fully blame them for this choice. I think this is a perfect example of the unrealistic expectations that our society puts on women. When the media tells the world that expectations are vastly different from reality, it causes women to internalize that message and compare themselves to these unrealistic standards.

By bringing the truth to the public, it allows women to know that they should not compare themselves and feel bad about themselves. Everyone is beautiful. Picking and choosing the "ideal" woman or the "ideal" plus-size woman is completely deceitful. We as a society need to do better.

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