Your Body Does Not Equal Your Worth

Your Body Does Not Equal Your Worth

The battle and beauty of finding worth in who you are.
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So, tell me. How many times have you looked in the mirror and thought something along the lines of: I'm worthless. I hate my stomach. Maybe they'll be into me if I lose 10 pounds. I feel disgusting. I look like a pig. I hate my thighs. My butt has so much cellulite. Great, up another pound. I hate my body. My stretch marks are so ugly. No one will ever want to date me with acne like this. Ten times? Fifty times? Every single day of your life? If you're struggling with body image, self love, or body dysmorphia, I want you to understand and recognize that your body is not equivalent to your worth. How your body looks in the mirror does not determine that, nor does the number on the scale. It's easy to preach, but hard to convince, so say it with me: I am worth more than the physical appearance of my body.

Have you ever gone through the drive-thru somewhere and paid for the person's order behind you? Right, that was your flat stomach and six-pack abs that did that. Have you ever held the door open or carried items for someone who was unable to? Right again, that was definitely your giant biceps that prompted you to do such a nice act of service. Ever helped the homeless? Ever donated food or other items? Ever gave an extra big tip for phenomenal service? Yep, the glutes made you do it, I know.

Doesn't that sound absolutely ridiculous? That's because it is. You do those kinds of things because of the person you are, not because of your physical features. Your heart and your entire being are the reason you do what you do. Maybe you gained 10 pounds over the holidays, maybe your pants fit a little tighter, or maybe you don't feel as confident in your once "go-to" outfit, but that doesn't mean you aren't the same phenomenal, dedicated, passionate, and driven person. Those are qualities that don't change even when your body does. Whether you are 90 pounds, 120 pounds, or 220 pounds, overweight or underweight or anywhere in between, you are still the same person with the same heart. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be to accept and love yourself in all forms.

Finding worth in who you are as an individual and dissociating that from your body completely isn't an easy task, but put it in perspective: Are you kind? Are you empathetic? Are you supportive? That is what's important and noteworthy. Once you're able to separate the two, the line between what matters and what doesn't becomes crystal clear.

The struggle is part of the battle, which is part of the victory. You become stronger, smarter, and more resilient each and every day. Today is the beginning of a new mindset and fresh outlook. Have faith in yourself to overcome your mental and emotional battles, because you can. You can win. You can come out on top. And you will. You will succeed, and you will conquer.

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I Drank Lemon Water For A Week And Here's What Happened

It has already changed my life.

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There are so many health crazes out there now, it's hard to tell what actually works and what doesn't; or more importantly what is healthy and what is making your body worse. I read about simply drinking lemon water and I figured that didn't sound gross or bad for me so I figured I would give it a try. I've been drinking it consistently for a week and a half and I already notice some results.

I've never been a fan of lemon in my water, I always refuse it at restaurants. You definitely have to find your sweet spot in lemon to water ratio, in what tastes good to you. I personally cut the lemon into quarters and use on quarter per day. I put the lemon quarter in the bottle and then continuously fill with water throughout the day. I still get the yummy lemon flavor all day because I do not squeeze the lemon. It took about a bottle or two to get used to the lemon flavor, and now I just crave it.

Lemon water is supposed to speed up your metabolism. Obviously, a week is not long enough to tell if this is fact or fiction but I have noticed a change in appetite. I feel like I do not get hungry as often as I did before. I saw this effect within 24-48 hours of starting the experiment. This seems opposite to a fast metabolism but we'll see.

I definitely feel more hydrated with lemon water. I drink a lot of water anyways, about 80 oz a day but for some reason with the lemon, it makes me feel better. I don't feel as sluggish, I'm not getting hot as easily, and my skin feels amazing. I am slightly skeptical though because the lemon almost makes my tongue dry requiring me to drink more water, so I have upped my intake by about 20oz. I'm unsure if the hydration is due to the extra water, the lemon, or both!

My face is clearing up and feels so much softer too, in only a week! I have not gotten a new pimple since I have started my lemon water kick, may be coincidence but I'm not going to argue with it.

I also feel skinnier as I feel like I'm not holding as much water weight. I only exercise lightly, for the most part, walking around a mile or two a day so we can eliminate exercise factor to the slender feeling.

I have a messy stomach. Everything upsets it, and even though lemons are very acidic, they have not affected me in a negative way at all. It almost seems like the lemon water is helping me digest the difficult foods that my stomach doesn't like. I'm nowhere near a doctor so don't trust my word but it seems to be working for me.

From the effects I've felt so far, it also seems like lemon water may be a great hangover cure! I haven't tried it but I don't see why it wouldn't work. I can't say a negative thing about drinking lemon water so far expect you have to buy the lemons! If you try this for yourself though just make sure you are using an enamel saving mouthwash or toothpaste since lemons aren't so great for your teeth.

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To The Guy Who Told My Friend That 'He Could Do Better,' My Body Does NOT Determine My Worth

FYI, I'm great in bed.

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I've been overweight my whole life. I don't have any memories of being "normal" size.

Don't blame my parents, they put in my sports and I ate lots of vegetables. For someone reason, I wasn't able to eat like other kids and be "normal."

As the "fat girl" for my whole life, I'm comfortable with that title. In many ways, it is forever ingrained in my identity. I stopped letting comments bother me in middle school.

I love my body, you don't have to.

Last night, my male best friend and I went out to a typical college bar together. Our night was remarkably normal. There was a couple about to have sex in a dancing cage, people that were too drunk bumped into us and we saw many of our friends. Stubby Tuesday is the place to be every week.

We were walking out the door, when this random guy stood up and stopped us. He leaned into and attempted to whisper to my friend.

"You can do better," he said.

Ironically, my friend couldn't hear a word this asshole said, but I could. He tried to tell him almost 5 times. Over and over again he said it. "You can do better."

I tried to explain.

"We're just friends," I said.

This guy looked at me and acted like he didn't know what I was talking about. Like I wasn't even there.

I leaned in and explained to my friend what was happening. We laughed it off and walked away.

Outside of the bar, we talked about what had just happened. We joked about it and "agreed" this random man was definitely interested in taking my guy friend home.

"I feel flattered," he said.

This guy was so concerned that my friend would have sex with a fat girl, that he needed to intervene.

To this man and other people who think this in their heads, here's what you need to know.

1. My weight doesn't determine my value.

Hi. I'm a human. I have feelings. Treat me like someone who deserves respect. I felt like an object to this guy. One that should be replaced. He doesn't have to want to be with me, but don't judge other people's choices.

2. Your actions have repercussions.

Do you read the news? Have you noticed that the things you do affect people? Think before you act. What if the woman you did that to wasn't self-confident? How would you feel if you had caused harm in her life?

3. I'm great in bed.

You'll have to take my word on this one. But you can read about it here.

4. It would be totally appropriate to ask if we're sober enough to have sex.

Just to be clear, please check in with folks about their sobriety when engaging in sex. If you're drunk, you can't have sex. One more level of irony is that I won't have drunk sex. Even if my friend and I were partners, nothing would have happened.

5. Don't tell people who they should be with.

Everyone is into different things and different people. It's not your place to judge those things. Maybe I'm not attracted to your girlfriend, but guess what, that's not my problem.

TLDR - If you don't want to sleep with me or women who look like me, you don't have to.

However, I'm a beautiful human who has value.

To the guy who stopped us: I'm my beautiful than you'll ever be.

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