Your Body Does Not Equal Your Worth

Your Body Does Not Equal Your Worth

The battle and beauty of finding worth in who you are.

So, tell me. How many times have you looked in the mirror and thought something along the lines of: I'm worthless. I hate my stomach. Maybe they'll be into me if I lose 10 pounds. I feel disgusting. I look like a pig. I hate my thighs. My butt has so much cellulite. Great, up another pound. I hate my body. My stretch marks are so ugly. No one will ever want to date me with acne like this. Ten times? Fifty times? Every single day of your life? If you're struggling with body image, self love, or body dysmorphia, I want you to understand and recognize that your body is not equivalent to your worth. How your body looks in the mirror does not determine that, nor does the number on the scale. It's easy to preach, but hard to convince, so say it with me: I am worth more than the physical appearance of my body.

Have you ever gone through the drive-thru somewhere and paid for the person's order behind you? Right, that was your flat stomach and six-pack abs that did that. Have you ever held the door open or carried items for someone who was unable to? Right again, that was definitely your giant biceps that prompted you to do such a nice act of service. Ever helped the homeless? Ever donated food or other items? Ever gave an extra big tip for phenomenal service? Yep, the glutes made you do it, I know.

Doesn't that sound absolutely ridiculous? That's because it is. You do those kinds of things because of the person you are, not because of your physical features. Your heart and your entire being are the reason you do what you do. Maybe you gained 10 pounds over the holidays, maybe your pants fit a little tighter, or maybe you don't feel as confident in your once "go-to" outfit, but that doesn't mean you aren't the same phenomenal, dedicated, passionate, and driven person. Those are qualities that don't change even when your body does. Whether you are 90 pounds, 120 pounds, or 220 pounds, overweight or underweight or anywhere in between, you are still the same person with the same heart. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be to accept and love yourself in all forms.

Finding worth in who you are as an individual and dissociating that from your body completely isn't an easy task, but put it in perspective: Are you kind? Are you empathetic? Are you supportive? That is what's important and noteworthy. Once you're able to separate the two, the line between what matters and what doesn't becomes crystal clear.

The struggle is part of the battle, which is part of the victory. You become stronger, smarter, and more resilient each and every day. Today is the beginning of a new mindset and fresh outlook. Have faith in yourself to overcome your mental and emotional battles, because you can. You can win. You can come out on top. And you will. You will succeed, and you will conquer.

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To All The Nurses In The Making

We tell ourselves that one day it'll all pay off, but will it actually?

I bet you’re taking a break from studying right now just to read this, aren’t you? Either at the library with friends or in your dorm room. Wherever you may be, you never get the chance to put your books down, at least that’s how it feels to most of us. It sucks feeling like you’ve chosen the hardest major in the world, especially when you see other students barely spending any time studying or doing school work. The exclamation “You’re still here!” is an all too frequent expression from fellow students after recognizing that you’ve spent 10-plus hours in the library. At first it didn’t seem so bad and you told yourself, “This isn’t so difficult, I can handle it,” but fast-forward a few months and you’re questioning if this is really what you want to do with your life.

You can’t keep track of the amount of mental breakdowns you’ve had, how much coffee you’ve consumed, or how many times you’ve called your mom to tell her that you’re dropping out. Nursing is no joke. Half the time it makes you want to go back and change your major, and the other half reminds you why you want to do this, and that is what gets you through it. The thing about being a nursing major is that despite all the difficult exams, labs and overwhelming hours of studying you do, you know that someday you might be the reason someone lives, and you can’t give up on that purpose. We all have our own reasons why we chose nursing -- everyone in your family is a nurse, it’s something you’ve always wanted to do, you’re good at it, or like me, you want to give back to what was given to you. Regardless of what your reasoning is, we all take the same classes, deal with the same professors, and we all have our moments.

I’ve found that groups of students in the same nursing program are like a big family who are unconditionally supportive of each other and offer advice when it’s needed the most. We think that every other college student around us has it so easy, but we know that is not necessarily true. Every major can prove difficult; we’re just a little harder on ourselves. Whenever you feel overwhelmed with your school work and you want to give up, give yourself a minute to imagine where you’ll be in five years -- somewhere in a hospital, taking vitals, and explaining to a patient that everything will be OK. Everything will be worth what we are going through to get to that exact moment.

Remember that the stress and worry about not getting at least a B+ on your anatomy exam is just a small blip of time in our journey; the hours and dedication suck, and it’s those moments that weed us out. Even our advisors tell us that it’s not easy, and they remind us to come up with a back-up plan. Well, I say that if you truly want to be a nurse one day, you must put in your dedication and hard work, study your ass off, stay organized, and you WILL become the nurse you’ve always wanted to be. Don’t let someone discourage you when they relent about how hard nursing is. Take it as motivation to show them that yeah, it is hard, but you know what, I made it through.

With everything you do, give 110 percent and never give up on yourself. If nursing is something that you can see yourself doing for the rest of your life, stick with it and remember the lives you will be impacting someday.

SEE ALSO: Why Nursing School Is Different Than Any Other Major

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Netflix, You’ve Got It Wrong, Her Weight Wasn’t The Issue, It Was The Bullying

Are we really willing to counteract years of working towards being kinder to be entertained for an hour by a girl and her self-esteem being destroyed to the point that she gives in to the pressure?


All over social media, people are going crazy about Netflix's new show, "Insatiable." The plot follows overweight high schooler Patty, portrayed by Debby Ryan, as she loses weight and starts entering beauty pageants in response to the unabating bullying she faces every day at school. Naturally, this has caused a lot of controversies as weight and body shaming are such relevant issues, particularly in the summer months.

To start, I would first like to make it clear that everyone should be comfortable with themselves, whether they are fat, skinny, or somewhere in between the two, but sometimes our weight needs to be altered in order to live a healthy lifestyle. In the trailer, we see that Patty struggles in her physical education class, making it apparent that her health is being affected by her size, meaning a lifestyle change may be in order to improve her health and physical abilities.

The first thing Netflix got entirely wrong was that Patty should change because her peers were pressuring her to do so, and then showing how after she managed to lose the weight that her life completely changed. This is a terrible message to send young girls who may watch this and think that the way to fix their problems is to change themselves physically and that their physical appearance is what will make people like them.

Alternatively, they could have had Patty realize how her eating habits were negatively impacting her, and make changes that she chose to make, instead of showing her decide to lose weight after becoming overwhelmed by the bullying and essentially allowing her peers to choose how she lives her life.

There are plenty of kids who watch Netflix, and I cannot help but worry about what kind of message this show will be sending them; if people make fun of you, change yourself? That is not the type of attitude such a large entertainment company should be encouraging and putting in front of an audience that may be very impressionable. I see no benefit in showing how happy the protagonist is now that she has gone through an intensive lifestyle change when that change was inspired by bullies. Are we trying to show people that bullying is a positive thing?

With all of the other mean-spirited comedy in today's television that seeps into our culture, one cannot help but worry that messages that so clearly promote treating other people poorly will also find its way into our world, especially after all of the work that has been done in recent years to stop bullying. Are we really willing to counteract years of working towards being kinder to be entertained for an hour by a girl and her self-esteem being destroyed to the point that she gives in to the pressure?

Another controversial Netflix show, "13 Reasons Why," has been deemed inappropriate or educational, depending on who you ask, but "Insatiable" seems to have no educational value apart from the pro-bullying and pro-succumbing to peer pressure that is the opposite of what we want people to learn. More mature, older audiences may find the plot humorous in how crazy it would be for a girl to lose weight simply because her classmates made fun of her, but not all people will be able to look at this as an exaggeration for the screen, but will instead find this to be acceptable, and that is my biggest fear when it comes to this show.

So I, along with the majority of Netflix users, will be anxiously awaiting the release of this show on August 10th to see how Netflix handles this tough issue of adolescent body shaming.

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