Your Body Does Not Equal Your Worth

Your Body Does Not Equal Your Worth

The battle and beauty of finding worth in who you are.
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So, tell me. How many times have you looked in the mirror and thought something along the lines of: I'm worthless. I hate my stomach. Maybe they'll be into me if I lose 10 pounds. I feel disgusting. I look like a pig. I hate my thighs. My butt has so much cellulite. Great, up another pound. I hate my body. My stretch marks are so ugly. No one will ever want to date me with acne like this. Ten times? Fifty times? Every single day of your life? If you're struggling with body image, self love, or body dysmorphia, I want you to understand and recognize that your body is not equivalent to your worth. How your body looks in the mirror does not determine that, nor does the number on the scale. It's easy to preach, but hard to convince, so say it with me: I am worth more than the physical appearance of my body.

Have you ever gone through the drive-thru somewhere and paid for the person's order behind you? Right, that was your flat stomach and six-pack abs that did that. Have you ever held the door open or carried items for someone who was unable to? Right again, that was definitely your giant biceps that prompted you to do such a nice act of service. Ever helped the homeless? Ever donated food or other items? Ever gave an extra big tip for phenomenal service? Yep, the glutes made you do it, I know.

Doesn't that sound absolutely ridiculous? That's because it is. You do those kinds of things because of the person you are, not because of your physical features. Your heart and your entire being are the reason you do what you do. Maybe you gained 10 pounds over the holidays, maybe your pants fit a little tighter, or maybe you don't feel as confident in your once "go-to" outfit, but that doesn't mean you aren't the same phenomenal, dedicated, passionate, and driven person. Those are qualities that don't change even when your body does. Whether you are 90 pounds, 120 pounds, or 220 pounds, overweight or underweight or anywhere in between, you are still the same person with the same heart. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be to accept and love yourself in all forms.

Finding worth in who you are as an individual and dissociating that from your body completely isn't an easy task, but put it in perspective: Are you kind? Are you empathetic? Are you supportive? That is what's important and noteworthy. Once you're able to separate the two, the line between what matters and what doesn't becomes crystal clear.

The struggle is part of the battle, which is part of the victory. You become stronger, smarter, and more resilient each and every day. Today is the beginning of a new mindset and fresh outlook. Have faith in yourself to overcome your mental and emotional battles, because you can. You can win. You can come out on top. And you will. You will succeed, and you will conquer.

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100 Ways To Practice Self-Care In Your Everyday Life, In 20 Minutes Or Less

Simple ways to start taking care of yourself.

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Life is overwhelming and distracting so it's easy to forget about yourself sometimes, but practicing small self-care acts is easy. Making time for yourself every day isn't selfish and is really good for your mental health. I think it's important for everyone to spend time doing things that make them happy and more calm, even if you only dedicate 20 minutes each day. Putting yourself first can lead to growth so many other aspects of your life.

Obviously, each person is allowed to practice self-care in their own unique way, but here are some ideas to get you started!

1. Do something new. 

2. Make a list of things you need to get done that week. 

3. Drink some hot tea. 

4. Go for a walk on a scenic trail.

5. Paint your nails.

6. Have a good laugh.

7. Buy yourself flowers.

8. Light a candle.

9. Do some tidying up.

10. Don't feel bad for saying 'no.'

11. Listen to music.

12. Slow down.

13. Drink a smoothie.

14. Run mindless errands.

15. Write down your goals for the week.

16. Talk to someone about the future.

17. Wake up early and get coffee. 

18. Take care of a plant. 

19. Take a bubble bath. 

20. Give yourself a compliment.

21. Give a stranger a compliment.

22. Watch a movie.

23. Put your phone down.

24. Declutter your personal space.

25. Go to bed early. 

26. Pray or meditate. 

27. Go for a drive. 

28. Make it a habit to stargaze. 

29. Read a book. 

30. Read poems. 

31. Sing loudly. 

32. Make a list of things you're grateful for. 

33. Drink a lot of water. 

34. Put on make-up for no reason.

35. Watch funny videos. 

36. Take a deep breath. 

37. Distance yourself from negativity. 

38. Unfollow people you don't care to follow on social media. 

39. Have a pajama day. 

40. Read an inspirational book. 

41. Call your parents/ loved ones. 

42. Donate old clothing. 

43. Dedicate a day out of the week to not eating meat. 

44. Do a fun craft or DIY project. 

45. Put on a face mask and relax. 

46. Do a small workout. 

47. Take a power nap. 

48. Listen to a podcast. 

49. Open a window. 

50. Open your curtains in the morning to let in natural light. 

51. Make your bed. 

52. Cook dinner instead of eating out. 

53. Play/ cuddle with an animal. 

54. At the end of the day, think of all the positive things that happened.

55. Moisturize. 

56. Buy a comforting blanket. 

57. Give someone a hug. 

58. Create a vision board. 

59. Have some alone time.

60. Enjoy the sun on your skin. 

61. Dance like nobody is watching.

62. Walk in the rain every once in a while. 

63. Drive with the windows down. 

64. Give someone a gift for no reason. 

65. Get a massage. 

66. Do something that gets your adrenaline running. 

67. Spend the day at the library or a book store. 

68. Organize your work space/ binders. 

69. Spend a weekend in. 

70. Recognize hard work and reward yourself. 

71. Sign up for a work out class. 

72. Eat lunch with a friend. 

73. Spend the day helping others. 

74. Get your hair done. 

75. Have a good cry. 

76. Use sticky notes. 

77. Color code your planner. 

78. Print out pictures and hang them up. 

79. Hang motivational quotes on your mirror and read them when you get ready. 

80. Do random acts of kindness. 

81. Buy fuzzy socks. 

82. Redecorate or rearrange furniture. 

83. Be present. 

84. Set a new years resolution. 

85. Make a bucket list. 

86. Stretch in the morning. 

87. Watch an interesting documentary. 

88. Make a music playlist.

89. Watch the sunrise or sunset. 

90. Explore somewhere new.

91. Be slow to respond to negativity. 

92. Have a game night with friends. 

93. Buy concert tickets. 

94. Have a nightly routine before bed. 

95. Eat your favorite dessert. 

96. Do something you've been putting off. 

97. Invest in essential oils. 

98. Manage your finances. 

99. Buy a new outfit. 

100. Make your own gratitude list. 

Try at least one of these every week and see how you feel! I guarantee you will notice a difference in the way you are living your life.

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5 Big Struggles Petite Girls With Big Boobs Know All Too Well

A small five letter word... not so little in my case!

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Oh, where to even start... I remember at 13 years old how I use to dream about the day that I'd finally be like all the girls that I saw on TV and in magazines. I wanted to have boobs like all my other friends and be able to talk about the different struggles that came along with having them. Little did I know what the struggles were NOT something to look forward to and I should have cherished that time as a flat-chested 13-year-old.

If I could go back in time and enjoy that time trust me, I would! Now in present time and being a petite, 5'2" woman with D-sized boobs is not ideal... at ALL. So I have come up with some struggles that myself and other women like me face on a daily basis.

Here's to all my big-boobed ladies and to their daily boobie struggles.

1. All clothing looks provocative unless it's an oversized hoodie

I love to shop and buy a cute new shirt or dress. Yet when it comes to finding something that doesn't make me look like I am a stripper or that I want every person in the universe look at my chest, it can be a big struggle. This eliminates a lot of options for me such as low cut shirts, v-necks, tight dresses, crop tops and so much more. Not that I don't wear those different clothing items but it has to be the right time and the right setting to make them work. So I usually opt for high necked shirts that aren't too tight and often items for clothing items that are flowy or take the attention away from my chest. Though this can be a serious struggle no matter what I wear.

2. The different pains are a whole different story

Oh, how naive my young self-was. Before my body decided to grow boobs nothing every really hurt on my body. I was a dancer, a gymnast, and a marcher and the most pain that I ever suffered from if any was soreness from a workout or a long day on the field marching. Little did I know that I once I grew boobs I would have daily pain such as back pain and rib soreness. Having such a small and petite body but so much weight on my top half has not been the most ideal for the rest of my body. I am a very active person so carrying these things and still being active can come with some serious consequences. I'm pretty used to the back and rib pain but it will never feel good.

3. Swimsuits... an entirely new issue

I absolutely love to swim and go to the beach. Ever since I was a little girl my parents have called me a fish because of how strong my love was for the water. Yet once I grew boobs it wasn't as easy for me to enjoy something that I love so so much. Bathing suits are hard to find and for many reasons. One reason is when you have big boobs the options to find something cute and trendy becomes harder and harder. Similar to my other point, when I am out and about in a bathing suit it can hard to not look provocative and like I am asking for attention. When in reality all I want to do is enjoy the beach or the pool and not be stared at by old dudes or creepy teenage boys.

4. Boys... all they see is boobs

At the young age of 20 years old I have had my share of comments or DMs about the size of my chest. Some are astonished by the size, some think that they are not real, and some are just rude. Now don't get me wrong it can be flattering but it gets old real fast. I am the type of person who wants to be seen for more than just what is on my chest. So if the size of my boobs are all you're interested in and you can't move past that then don't waste my time.

5. Looking un-proportionate

Like I mentioned throughout this entire article I am a very petite sized person. I always have been small and I like that about myself. Yet when I went through puberty and was given what's on my chest it changed the game for good. At times I can look top heavy. Especially in pictures and even in real life which can cause me to have some body image issues. I don't try to harp on that because everyone has their different struggles, mine just happens to be having big boobs and a small body.

Don't get me wrong I love my body... even though at times I struggle with different issues and pains. Everyone is built the way they are for a reason and we all just need to realize that and love ourselves!

Jgorman
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