When you go to college with your best friend, you dream of entering a sisterhood with someone you've already considered a sister for so long. But once recruitment comes around, everything you thought you knew and wanted is thrown out the window with the harsh reality that you and your best friend might have to be detached from the hip. There are many realizations you make about your friendship when you enter Greek life in two different sororities.
Conflicting schedules
Being in a sorority means socials, date parties, sisterhoods, chapter, philanthropy events — the list goes on and on. From having a schedule that consisted of possibly going to class and eating, hanging with your best friend may not be as easy as it was before. And when she was at an event and I wasn’t, my time was spent waiting until she came home.
BFF Theft
Now that you're spending a lot more time NOT together, like a newly divorced couple, there are now 200 girls in the running to be your best friend's new best friend, and that is NOT OK. Considering she was usually under my surveillance whether we were at a party together or in the bathroom, it was the first time I had to let go and have her make new friendships ... as long as it wasn't better than ours.
Date Parties: Besties Before Boys
Although being in different sororities may have not been the most ideal situation; we sure make the best of it. There is never a time I don't get asked, “Where is she?” when I’m out, and my best friend is not by my side, but when it comes to date parties, that's a different story. I’m blessed to be in a sorority that allows you to bring a girl as a date, and you best believe that I took full advantage of that. Nothing would bring be more anxiety than dancing in a tight dress with a guy I barely know and being completely sober. And on top of that, you know my best friend and I will probably be spending more time at the buffet than the dance floor anyway.
Although it may seem like a negative that we aren’t in the same sorority, there are positives that come out of expanding ourselves and allowing new experiences and individuals into our lives. And just because it changed our relationship, doesn't mean it won't be a change that will strengthen our friendship, which will last forever. We may not be sisters by chapter, but we are sisters at heart.
