I Believe In Superficial Things And That's Ok

I Believe In Superficial Things And That's Ok

Whoever said money can’t buy happiness hasn’t put their money in all the right places

Maybe you do believe in these things, maybe you completely disagree, either way, you’ve probably seen yourself on the other side. At one point, you had to at least hoped for something superficial in your life whether you’re willing to admit it or not.

I believe money can buy happiness (at times)

Whoever said money can’t buy happiness hasn’t put their money in all the right places. Sure, an expensive ticket to an expensive resort isn’t happiness but what about the trip's entirety? The warm sun and the way one too many pina colada’s make you feel on the beach? Or sure putting year’s worth of work and thousands of dollars into building a house isn’t a happy time, but what about the years and lifetime ahead of all the memories to be made with your family members in it?

The place your children took their first steps, birthday and graduation parties. What about money spent on concert tickets? The goosebumps you get when your favorite performer comes out and sings your favorite song. I believe the concept of money is superficial and things can be expensive or things can add up but there are certain things that are bought and become an entire experience that is priceless.

I believe in holiday traditions/ New year’s kisses

Every family does gift giving differently around Christmas time. My extended family does a “sock exchange” around Christmas time. We do this by purchasing a pair of socks and an item that will fit in the socks whether it be a gift card, a bottle of champagne, or really whatever you can think of. I believe in finding the pickle ornament hidden on the tree to see who will open the first gift. I

believe in rotating every person’s turn to open gifts so I can see the joy on the receiver’s face. I also believe in popping open a bottle of champagne when you need to celebrate, or a special occasion. I believe on waiting till midnight to go out on your 21st birthday whether you’ll remember It or not. I believe in counting down till the clock strikes midnight and kissing in celebration of a new year on New Year’s Eve. It’s the little things about big days like holidays that are exciting and make for great memories.

I believe in picture perfect moments

Or honestly making a moment perfect for a picture. More often than not I am posing my French toast and my coffee and fork in a stylish manner for my snapchat followers. But food isn’t the only thing I pose for pictures. I love a good planned out photoshoot with my friends, not only to get a good new selfie but to make an adventure out of it. No one amps me up more than my friends, if I’m really going get a true candid photo, it’s from my friends, and they’re going to be the ones to amp me up on Instagram when I post my photos too. There is nothing wrong with being extra on social media.

I believe in wanting eternal love

Sure, a love story like a Nicholas Sparks seems unrealistic for just about anyone but Nicholas Sparks. It may seem like asking for a lot but I believe in any real love story the spark never dies. I believe in little love notes left on the kitchen counter when your significant other goes to work, or goofy selfie time or flowers just because. Sure, you don’t need any additions to make love great but I believe such simple small things show how greatly one can care for another.

I believe each day has a new opportunity

No matter how hard the day or the week or the month, there is a chance to make something great out of it. You may be going through a rough patch and think that there is no looking up for you but that’ll only be the case if you don’t at least try. Try to wake up in the morning and think of something exciting that could happen today or in the near future, give yourself something to look forward to.Get out of bed and try on your favorite outfit if you don’t know what to wear. Treat yourself to your favorite meal regardless of the calorie count and sit down and enjoy it. I believe all these things are just a start to pointing your day in the right direction. I believe you choose how your day will go, so look at it with opportunity and each day can be great.
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To The Person Who Feels Suicidal But Doesn't Want To Die

Suicidal thoughts are not black and white.

Everyone assumes that if you have suicidal thoughts that means you want to die.

From an outside perspective, suicidal thoughts are rarely looked into deeper than the surface level. Either you have suicidal thoughts and you want to die, or you don't have suicidal thoughts and you want to live. What most people don't understand is that people live in between those two statements, I for one am one of them.

I've had suicidal thoughts since I was a kid.

My first recollection of it was when I came home after school one day and got in trouble, and while I was just sitting in the dining room I kept thinking, “I wonder what it would be like to take a knife from the kitchen and just shove it into my stomach." I didn't want to die, or even hurt myself for that matter. But those thoughts haven't stopped since.

I've thought about going into the bathroom and taking every single pill I could find and just drifting to sleep and never waking back up, I've thought about hurting myself to take the pain away, just a few days ago on my way to work I thought about driving my car straight into a tree. But I didn't. Why? Because even though that urge was so strong, I didn't want to die. I still don't, I don't want my life to end.

I don't think I've ever told anyone about these feelings. I don't want others to worry because the first thing anyone thinks when you tell them you have thoughts about hurting or killing yourself is that you're absolutely going to do it and they begin to panic. Yes, I have suicidal thoughts, but I don't want to die.

It's a confusing feeling, it's a scary feeling.

When the depression takes over you feel like you aren't in control. It's like you're drowning.

Every bad memory, every single thing that hurt you, every bad thing you've ever done comes back and grabs you by the ankle and drags you back under the water just as you're about the reach the surface. It's suffocating and not being able to do anything about it.

The hardest part is you never know when these thoughts are going to come. Some days you're just so happy and can't believe how good your life is, and the very next day you could be alone in a dark room unable to see because of the tears welling up in your eyes and thinking you'd be better off dead.

You feel alone, you feel like a burden to everyone around you, you feel like the world would be better off without you. I wish it was something I could just turn off but I can't, no matter how hard I try.

These feelings come in waves.

It feels like you're swimming and the sun is shining and you're having a great time until a wave comes and sucks you under into the darkness of the water. No matter how hard you try to reach the surface again a new wave comes and hits you back under again, and again, and again.

And then it just stops.

But you never know when the next wave is going to come. You never know when you're going to be sucked back under.

I always wondered if I was the only one like this.

It didn't make any sense to me, how did I think about suicide so often but not want to die? But I was thinking about it in black and white, I thought I wasn't allowed to have those feelings since I wasn't going to act on them. But then I read articles much like this one and I realized I'm not the only one. Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, and my feelings are valid.

To everyone who feels this way, you aren't alone.

I thought I was for the longest time, I thought I was the only one who felt this way and I didn't understand how I could feel this way. But please, I implore you to talk to someone, anyone, about the way you're feeling, whether it be a family member, significant other, a friend, a therapist.

My biggest mistake all these years was never telling anyone how I feel in fear that they would either brush me off because “who could be suicidal but not want to die?" or panic and try to commit me to a hospital or something. Writing this article has been the greatest feeling of relief I've felt in a long time, talking about it helps. I know it's scary to tell people how you're feeling, but you're not alone and you don't have to go through this alone.

Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, your feelings are valid, and there are people here for you. You are not alone.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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