If you’ve ever talked to a guy freshly out of a relationship, who treats you really nicely, run. You are about to be the in-between girl. This is the girl who the guy who is newly single attaches himself to while he’s trying to figure out how to function without a girl. Yes, he is just using you to learn how to be single.
He’s the guy who seems too good to be true because that’s exactly what he is. He’ll sweet talk you and treat you as if you two are something exclusive, but will never use titles or answer questions involving any titles. He wants to be your one and only while he transitions from a relationship back to the single life or to his next relationship. You’ll listen to everything he says and slowly let your guard down because you think he’s the real deal. You can’t see through his player ways because, honestly, you’ve probably never seen him out of a relationship. The only image you have of him is a loyal, committed guy and though he has those qualities in him, he’s not ready to practice them on you. And honestly, he probably never will.
If you’re anything like me, this is probably reoccurring thing in your life. You get so caught up only to find out that you were just a placeholder in his journey to his next girlfriend. It’s harsh and it sucks, but it’s exactly what happens. They’ll tell you that they’re just not ready for another relationship and that’s something you understand so you stick around in hopes that he’ll miraculously change his mind. He doesn’t though. What he does do is become a player and keep you around for the emotional aspects while secretly he's with a bunch of different girls or he’ll find another girl and he’ll either tell you all about her or nothing at all. The worst part is you have to pretend that this doesn’t absolutely kill you because technically you guys were nothing. No title. No real commitment. Nothing.
You feel broken even though you feel like you shouldn’t, but it’s ok to be upset. Those were your emotions on the line and even if there was no real title, the way you felt or feel is realer than anything. The standards of dating or hooking up or whatever our generation calls it should not make you feel like less of a person for having emotion.
It sucks being the in-between girl or the right now girl, but, at the end of the day, it’s not your loss whatsoever. Keep your head up and remember you’re probably the best thing he never got to have. The right person would never put you through the things he did and the right person is worth all the in-betweening in the world.
