I feel like nowadays relationships are the ultimate goal for some people. It's like teenagers and people in their 20's are so determined to find their soulmate. I got news for you people; it's really not a big deal.
I was looking through my old dating profile on OkCupid and every single message was from men wanting to hook up or boys saying how beautiful I was and saying that I would be a good wife, and they would be the perfect man for me. Um, excuse me, but if your approach to find the one is to 'search' for them, you're doing it all wrong.
Being independent doesn't mean that I don't need a man to support me, it just means that I need time for myself. Independence could mean a number of things. It could mean that you have a hobby that you enjoy doing by yourself. It could mean that you believe in 'alone time' and know how to enjoy yourself when your man is away. It's okay to have days like this. Communication is really all we ask in return. No, we're not malicious people; we just want our partners to know that this is just how we are.
We like our privacy, and we like to be away. No, you did nothing wrong, I'm not cheating on you, and I'm not about to break up with you. Just calm down. Because of our drives and our ambitions, we tend to isolate ourselves so we can focus on our goals. It's okay to have those little moments to ourselves. We did not find our happiness through our partners; we found our joys through the activities we do. So what if you have to stay up late and practice for a test tomorrow? Just text your boyfriend/girlfriend and just say that you're busy and you'll text later.
Our loves in our lives take that to offense as if we don't love them anymore or we have lost interest. You have to communicate with your partner and tell them that this is just how you are. We still love you and we will be there when we get back. If we don't have that little moment to ourselves, then the relationship won't work.
There is nothing wrong with writing your own stories and having your significant other do the same. You could both be together or not. At the end of day, you still love each other and you thank god that they're not one of those crazy people on dating apps looking for 'the one.'
