What defines beauty; what makes a girl beautiful? Is it her smile, is it her body, the way she carries herself, or the person she is? There are so many standards set by the media for women today. One must not be too big, but one must not be too small, right? She must be the "perfect" medium between all things.
All a woman wants is to feel good about herself and the things that God has blessed her with, but that is near impossible with the media we have covering our world.
At 19 years old, I don't want to worry about if a boy thinks I am attractive or if other girls look at me with envy because there are so many things I want to do with my life, but unfortunately I do worry about those things. Every day I struggle with the little confidence in myself, but I try to remind myself of these few things in hopes of making it through another day.
1. God made you and He thinks you are PERFECT
When He crafted you, He made every single detail of your body perfect. He gave you the perfect shaped eyes, He gave you the perfect nose, He gave you the perfect cheeks, but most of all He gave you a heart and soul to love with and a mind to think with.,
For me He gave me round eyes, a nose I feel is way too big, and cheeks that just are not defined nearly enough in my mind, but He also gave me a heart to love so deeply with, a soul that craves Him, and a mind to choose the right path that will lead me to Him.
2. Your opinion holds the most value
When I wake up the morning and I look in the mirror on my bad days, sometimes I cry. I cry because I don't feel beautiful, so then I slap on makeup to try and hide all of the things I think are flaws. Makeup can only do so much though; Still there is my big nose, tiny lips, and naturally undefined cheek bones. As the day goes on if I try to take a picture of myself for something I worry that someone will see all of the flaws I do. Some days I am lucky enough to think of all the things I said for number 1, and I don't think of the things that people may judge me for; Those days are my favorite days. Bad day or good day, always remind yourself that someone, somewhere will have something ugly to say, but hey that's okay because not only do we all do it, but it doesn't matter. The way we think of ourselves is all that matters.
3. Confidence shows
Whether you are going for a job interview, going out for drinks with your friends, or heading for a blind date the confidence you have in yourself shines through. I know my confidence shines through my academics. If there is one thing I love more than sleeping, its definitely being a good student. I have always been the straight A student my mom wanted me to be, and though it was what she wanted, it's something that has always come natural for me. Working hard to get good grades and sustaining an above average GPA is definitely what keeps me sane as a person. Everyone has something that they are good at, and so find what it is and work your hardest at it, and your confidence will build from that.
(Hey, eventalking about my grades for a second made me feel so much better about this whole article.)
I think these three things are what help me to try and get through my day to day life. They may not ALWAYS work, but it's better to try and fail than to not try at all.
I have a whole life ahead of me, I have 3 years of college to experience, I have a career waiting for me somewhere, and I have a boy who never lets me forget that I am the most beautiful human being to him. I don't want a low self-esteem to ruin that, but some days it will come in the way, and on those days I just have to try and remind myself that no matter what the media will try and portray, no matter the hateful things someone might have to say, I am the way I am for a reason, and that is perfectly okay.
