Be Bold Af.

Be Bold Af.

It's okay to make a statement.

I get it. It's hard to be yourself. To be everything you know you are when often enough, the people around us encourage us to be something we aren't. It's a tale as old as time, but sitting here shortly after my 22nd birthday, I can verify that letting your confidence shine doesn't get any easier with age.

Take myself for example. I've suffered with severe social anxiety my whole life. I was a shy child, a withdrawn teenager, and to this day I still lay in bed at night over-analyzing and thinking about how I could have conversed better throughout the day. I've always struggled with finding my voice, finding my confidence and finding my inner courage. That being said, I'm also a feminist. I believe that women are strong, and fierce and fire. As I've grown, and found myself through my passions and the good people around me, I've come to find that the feelings I had about the mightiness of women and the way that I thought about myself were quite different.

I was afraid to lead, afraid to fight, and afraid to fail.

Thankfully, I've grown to be comfortable in my own skin. And I'm here to give you one piece of advice if you are struggling with finding the power within yourself.

Be bold. Actually, no.

Be bold af.

That's a pretty broad statement, but it means what it reads.

Be bold.
Stand up for what you believe in.
You don't always have to agree with the norm. Offer ideas that everyone else is afraid to say.
Lead others; take the reigns and support those who follow.
Be loud. Sing loud. Laugh loud.
Stop apologizing for everything; don't let others belittle or talk over you.
Make your voice heard.
Do things even if everyone around you tells you not to.
Walk with determination in your step; you're going the right way.
Defend yourself. You're important, and no one should tell you otherwise.
Speak up when its hard, heroism isn't dead.
Remember that even if you have a partner, it's okay to still be independent.
Make a statement.
Take risks.
Turn heads.
Be bold.

I've struggled for years to find this confidence. And I'm still working on it. But I've taken the steps in finding ways that I can stand more firmly on my own two feet, and to find ways to contribute to and strengthen conversations and debates rather than to just take up space in a room.

College is hard, and it is so easy to get washed away in seas of people filled with philosophies and voices that you feel are louder and more powerful than yours. Always remember that confidence and boldness are powerful tools, they will get you so far in life.

Be bold.

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Dear Moms, Stop Body-Shaming Your Daughters

Your voice matters the most.


Maybe I am just really lucky. Maybe I won the jackpot of all mothers, but I didn't know it was that crazy for a mother to never make her daughter feel insecure.

It wasn't until I came to college that I realized that mothers body-shaming their daughters was even a thing. As I became closer with other young women I would often hear them saying how their moms told them what they could and couldn't wear, or they would make vicious remarks.

"You disgust me."

"That dress makes you look like a pig."

"I can't believe you would go out like that."

"Girls like you can't eat whatever they want."

"You're embarrassing the family."

No matter what I say to my friends, no matter how much I insist they are beautiful, your voice will always be in the back of their minds. Every single time they go shopping, every time they go out for dinner or post a picture on social media, they think about how you wouldn't approve.

This isn't to say that discussing a healthy lifestyle is off the table, but how you say things matters way more than you realize. Being a woman in college is hard enough. It is difficult to consistently manage all aspects of your life when you have 3 papers due by the end of the week and 2 tests on the same day. So maybe she puts on a few pounds, do you think mentioning that is going to make her less stressed?

As young women, we are constantly told that we are not good enough. We are shown what the ideal body and woman should look like. We are unbelievably aware of what our bodies look like and what is wrong with them. The last thing we need is for our role models to reinforce those unrealistic expectations.

I have heard the argument that you only "do this out of love", but love should never hurt. Is it really worth your daughter starving herself? Is it worth her throwing up after meals then binge eating? Is it really worth her starting to self-harm? Love is supporting somebody through the good and bad parts of their lives.

What you say not only impacts the way your daughter is viewing herself physically but makes her doubt other areas of her life. What you aren't seeing is that she is staying in that shitty relationship because you've made her feel like she'll never get or deserve better. She will quit studying because she thinks she will never be good enough anyway. She will let others walk all over her because that's what you've told her love is.

I am telling this because she never will- you are hurting her way more than you will ever help her.

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