Dear Me,
Stop comparing yourself to other girls, and stop putting yourself down when you have 600 million reasons to love yourself. I know that deep down everyone has insecurities and things they do not like about their appearance. This is a letter to the girl with poor body image.
Size 2, 33 waist, 36 C cups... what does it all even mean? I know you stand and look at yourself every day wishing you were tinier. You go to the gym and work yourself every morning and every night and stay away from the foods you wish you could eat at midnight with your friends. You get stressed out over not seeing the results, but all you've been doing is overworking yourself. Stop. In today's society, it's hard not to because we're constantly being reminded what we should look like. Women are told they need to be tall and thin in the modeling agency. But we are also told women should have curves. But then, we are told to exercise, but not to be too muscular in spite of "looking like a guy." The media is making it so confusing, frustrating and overwhelming. We are supposed to eat a certain way, too many carbs aren't good, not enough carbs is bad, detox will flush out your system, count your calories, don't count your calories just eat healthy meals, it's all so hard to take in.
When you are in the store, it's hard not to think "oh my boobs are too big." Or "I wish I could pull off wearing a crop top to the concert." Being negative toward your own body only fuels hate, not motivation.
I know your acne is also an issue. Having sensitive, acne-prone skin is not a curse (but pretty close.) Your nighttime routine takes twice as long as everybody else you know. You have to do each step by step with prescribed face washes and it's time-consuming. All your friends can go out without makeup and be ready in five minutes. But you have to cover up so you feel more confident. You only feel comfortable at home with a fresh face and anywhere else you can't be seen without foundation.
Word of advice is: the most important thing in life is that you're happy with yourself, because if you aim to please others, you'll never feel satisfied. If you think you won't be loved by the boy you like because of your body, or your acne, or your hair/imperfections, he's obviously not worth your time. Stick to your healthy lifestyle and push yourself a little harder, soon you will see the results you want. Stay motivated and determined. Be proud of who you are and what you look like. Everyone comes in different sizes, shapes and colors. Wear that bathing suit you're too nervous to wear at the beach. Run to the grocery store without makeup on and show that you're not afraid to hide who you really are. Underneath all those layers of clothes and pounds of makeup, there is a beautiful girl, naturally beautiful, just waiting to be free and express herself.
I'm sorry for always hating the way I look. My stomach, arms, hair, face and body. Learning to love your body takes time. Do not give people who delight in making you feel fat/ugly/unlovable/unworthy a single second more of your time.
Be happy.
Love,
Me
