I know how you felt when you saw the two, tiny blue lines appear.
Your chest felt tight and it was hard for you to breathe. I know that tears fell shamefully from your eyes as thousands of thoughts bombarded your head, making it impossible to say anything but, "Why me?" I know you didn't know what to do and that you felt scared and completely alone. In the morning when you wake up you will be hoping it was all just a dream, but it is not and you need to know that it is OK.
The first step is to just breathe. Breathe whenever you feel your face getting hot, begging to release tears. Breathe when you are forced to face your family and friends. Breathe when you tell him that he is going to be a father. Just breathe, because it is only going to get better from here.
What you are about to face next may be hard, but know that you will be OK. Know that you've got time. Don't let others sway you with what they think is right or wrong about the decision you are facing. Be stubborn enough to block out any biased remarks because you're going to have to make the decision that feels right deep down in your bones. You are going to over-analyze all the options you have and you are going to cry. You are going to cry like there is no tomorrow and you are going to be angry, and that is OK. Give yourself time.
You are not a statistic. You are not a whore because you are pregnant; that stereotype is overrated and ridiculous. You are not throwing your life away. You are not some piece of trash and you are most definitely not less of a person just because you are carrying life. People will judge and stare because human beings ridicule what they don't understand. It is human nature. Block out their nonsense and breathe. Know that people may leave and changes may happen, but don't take that negatively. Maybe your best friend wasn't that great of a friend to begin with. This is just life's way of clearing the toxins out of your life for better things to come.
You may think your whole world is falling apart, but that is not close to it at all. You can still achieve great things. Life changes unexpectedly. Things won't always go as planned and that is OK. Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean that your life is over: it is just the beginning.
You still have so many opportunities to grab for and dreams to chase. Your pathway may alter, but your destination doesn't have to change. Anything is possible, and you should ignore anyone who tries to tell you otherwise. There are many successful women who were faced with pregnancy at a young age. It is your determination that will help you succeed.
The most important thing to know is that you are not alone, no matter what you choose. He may have left you, and your parents might not understand right now, but you are not alone. Thousands of girls have been in your position and multiple support groups and organizations have been created because of it. There are websites and classes, and there are other girls going through exactly what you are at this very moment. Girls who are feeling the same way you are. I would know – I have been in your shoes and I am a better person because of it.
Just remember: everything is going to be OK.
Sincerely,
A Friend
