Dear New Girl,

This letter may actually be the hardest thing I have ever brought myself to do. I’m nervous to share this with you and anyone else taking the time to read. I don’t want you to think this is a message to scold you or attack you in any way, shape or form. I mean, you’re one of my sorority sisters, for heaven’s sake! This letter is just something I want you to know and hear from me first so that there will never be any "he said/she said." We go to a small school together; everything I am going to tell you now is coming from deep down.

Even with how much time has passed since he and I were a couple, the first time I saw you two truly together gave me a sharp and deep sting in my chest. Then, the photos began to pop up on social media and finally…it sank in. Although it has been a while since I had feelings for him and my heart has healed, seeing you two together was not even remotely easy. No one ever enjoys seeing their ex-boyfriend with another girl. You know it’s coming, but when it actually happens, it feels worse than you prepared for. I thought I was prepared, and maybe I would’ve been if it was someone else. I just wasn’t ready for it to be one of my own sisters. That being said, I know you as a person and I want you to know that I do not hate you. I won’t lie, I was hurt. However, I’m not mad at you. I want you to be happy just as much as the next person. I am your sister and I always will be. I support you and will be here for you no matter who your significant other is. You are kind and beautiful, and there is a reason we share a sorority. This truth is more important than any feelings I used to have for a boy. I will always look out for you no matter what.

For his own sake, he better make you happy. He better make you shine to your full potential and never, ever hurt you. I hope he holds your hand through anything and everything you go through, big or small. I hope he supports your wildest dreams and catches you when you fall. I hope he never breaks your heart, sweetheart. But if that day were to come, I want you to know you have an everlasting sister in me who will be there, support you, hold you up… and more importantly, I won’t judge you. I know we aren’t close, but every experience I have had getting to know you, through recruitment and in passing at the house, has been nothing but quaint.

So remember, you deserve nothing but the best and you have it, your sisters have your back always — including myself.

Be confident and never change, baby sis.

Your Sister