When it is time to begin college and move away from your glorious high school days there is one trend that seems to be prominent in this transition: trying new things. Your mom, dad, grandma, great grandma and just about every other person you know will most likely tell you that college is all about trying new things. But, how far are we really supposed to take this idea about college being the time to experience something you may never have thought of doing during your high school career?
When transitioning out of your comfortable, yet somewhat thrilling senior year of high school into the first year of college that will be your blank slate, the phrases you might hear most often will be something along the lines of: “make sure you meet new boys!” or “don’t forget there are so many fish in the sea!” But, what if you’re already settled down in a relationship that means the world to you? Maybe even the universe? How are you supposed to take this criticism and cope with the stressful suggestion to date tons of new guys in college? Dating is a very tricky thing when you’re young, especially when you find someone significantly different from all of the guys you’ve dated in the past – someone you think is special and truly worth your time; after high school that is.
Most of us can agree that the number one goal is happiness, and most of us also agree that being in love adds some extra points to the happiness scale. When you meet a guy you can easily call your best friend, your partner in crime, your go-to, your right hand and most importantly, someone that supports you, helps you grow, and never holds you back – the suggestion to date other people becomes “how can I possibly let this one go?” Sometimes the best way to know is to try. If you are on the fence about whether or not to stay in a relationship that may require long-distance, it can be easier to let go and experience independence and living the “single life.” This way, you can determine if he is truly a positive addition to your life. If you feel you have practically met your soul-mate in high school, it might feel just about impossible to go this route, and all you want is to hold on.
If holding on is a must for you because this one is “the one,” then go for it. Anything that you are passionate about should not be required to let go of without reason that makes sense most importantly -- to you. You never know if what someone else believes is the best for you, like letting go of your high school love and beginning fresh with a new slate. What you decide to do should be based on your heart and not a common belief based on personal motives and the stereotypical perception of a proper college experience.
Always follow your heart, and don’t let the pressure of trying new things in college steer you away from someone great. Finding someone who you love, and truly loves you is something special whether you are 16 or 61 years old.
