An Ode To "Dad Bod Girls"

An Ode To "Dad Bod Girls"

Appreciate girls that aren't just "curvy" or thin.

Last year the “Dad Bod” became a fad and transformed all the lives of beer-bellied college men. It started to not just be socially acceptable to have the body of a 40-year-old golfer, but it was being seen as a sexually attractive feature. Rowdy Gentlemen even sold merchandise that proudly announced your Dad Bod.

Not everyone with a Dad Bod is a man though. There are blessed few women with the Dad Bod--affectionately, I have named them "Dad Bod Girls" for the purpose of this article. For whatever reasons--genetics, gymnastics, swimming from an early age, or all three--these girls do not have the “ideal” curves and are left with a small chest and hips the same width, with really no dip in between, or are stick thin. The Dad Bod Girl probably did a lot of sports in high school but wasn't as dedicated to staying active when she went to college, and taking up beer did not help the situation. The same luxury of acceptance we give men with these habits was not given to women, though.

Why was there never a Mom Bod movement? When we focus on Mom Bods, it is only to decide if they are a "MILF" or not or how long it took her to lose all the weight after having a child. Carrying a life inside of you isn't even an excuse anymore for having a less than "desirable" body.

Society is all about "body acceptance" right now, but still, the bodies of the models are either skinny or curvy. There is a serious lack of representation of beautiful Dad Bod Girls. Body appreciation is not just about being curvy or naturally rail thin, but if you saw any body appreciation post or advertisement for underwear for “everybody,” there are really only those two types of bodies represented.

These bodies aren't photoshopped but they are still pretty close to perfect, and there is very little variation in figures. The girl who is a little thicker than the rest is even turned to the side, emphasizing her curves, not a lack thereof.

Although I appreciate the leaps and bounds for plus-sized women have made in the past five years and the great campaigns, like Aerie's "Real," there still seems be no room for more than two body types that happen to look pretty good anyway. “Real women” are not just curvy or thin. With huge surge in "real women are curvy," all the Dad Bod Girls feel almost more left out of the body acceptance conversation. It was general knowledge that not all women are super thin and it was okay to be human beings and like, eat or something. Now you can be plus-sized, but only if you have curves with a nice a** and big boobs. If we are going to celebrate bodies and beauty then Dad Bod Girls need representation, too. We need more solidarity for the solid girls.

I am a Dad Bod Girl, and there is no way that I accept my body. Call me a hypocrite or whatever for calling others to accept my body when I can't even accept it, but when you grow up with media overrun by "perfect" women I would have never had a choice in the matter. I have struggled with my weight ever since I developed a thyroid issue and gained a lot of weight in middle school. I have done crash diets, like the ABC diet, and spent summers where I skipped more meals than ate. Like when a mother loses all evidence of bringing a life into this world, when a Dad Bod Girl loses 20 pounds in two weeks, we congratulate them-- no matter if they are healthy or not.

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To The People With Big Noses, Yes, We're Beautiful Too

Don’t buy into the nose job hype!

Small noses, narrow noses, noses with tiny nostrils. It seems like the only noses so-called “beautiful” people have matched these descriptions. And yet most of the time, these picturesque schnozzes flooding the media aren’t even real. Celebrities will often get rhinoplasty (the medical term for a “nose job”) to “fix” their noses. At a whopping average cost of $4,306, a nose job is expensive and can even be risky. Botched plastic surgery is no joke, people! But millions will go under the knife anyway, hoping to meet the elusive “Western beauty standard.”

Well, I say screw the standard! It’s time for us to realize that big noses are beautiful! They’re unique, powerful, and all-natural. The only reason we might see them as unattractive is that the beauty industry tells us to. Imagine how much money plastic surgeons would lose if we embraced our features. The same goes for the makeup companies. We have the power to turn the economy upside-down and save some dollars in the process!

The disdain for large noses isn't even a universal sentiment. In Japan, “stronger, higher, slightly bigger nose [bridges]” are considered desirable and “exotic." So our qualms with big noses really are a product of our society. They’re not inherently “ugly.” I mean, look at Neanderthals! Their noses were huge, and they had no problem getting it on with each other. How do you think we’re here today?

There may also be some latent racism involved in the preference for dainty faces. While white people can have large noses, the feature is more common in other ethnic and racial groups. I’m a half-Hispanic, half-Jewish woman, for example, and you can tell from my larger-than-average nose!

This begs the question: Is our tendency to favor small features a result of internalized racism, or is it more than that? I think it’s a little bit of both — a combination of what the media (which has its own share of racism like any other industry) tells us to find attractive, and the centuries of bashing non-white people’s appearances in America.

Nonetheless, Hollywood is slowly starting to accept big-nosed, distinctive-looking individuals. Some of them are even becoming sex symbols! Look at Adam Driver, the breakout star of the newest Star Wars movie (you might know him as Adam Sackler from Girls, too):

Pretty unusual face, right? And yet I know many people — myself included — who think Driver is attractive. His interesting features, acting chops, and charisma are the recipe for his sex appeal. Without his big nose and ears though, he would just be another average Hollywood hunk. Boooring!

So next time you look in the mirror or take a selfie, remember your big nose — or whatever else you feel self-conscious about — is what makes you you! A big nose is memorable. A big nose is one-of-a-kind. A big nose is beautiful!

P.S. I want to give a shout out to the big-nosed Queen, Uma Thurman. She’s so gorgeous!

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It's Nice To Look Young And Feel Old At The Same Time

Age is only a number and looks are only a factor.

20 and one-half years have passed in my entire life. It certainly feels like time passed away so quickly, leaving no hints of the past and the hidden messages life has to offer. As I start looking at my pictures from high school and now, there seems to be no difference in how I look.

On that note, I resemble some of those features a 16-year-old Erem had back in high school. But, I think that's cool and perfectly fine. In a sense, I think it's awesome looking younger.

As I reach young adulthood, looks don't matter as much as people think. With adulthood come many problems and life lessons to learn. They can be difficult to grasp and take control of, but I do accept them with hesitancy. For sure, taking responsibility for everything at this age is hard, but I'm slowly trying to manage many things at once.

On the other hand, people can change so much in just two years after high school. For example, people like me mentally grow up. This serves as a counterpart to how old I might actually look. I think that's a blessing I have.

With that said, I learned through the course of six or so years that our actions do have consequences. I, as a young adult, have been given many responsibilities to take care of while attending to my own needs. I learned how to take control of what I do and strive to fix what I destroy.

If for any reason I stop controlling my emotions and stop accepting my mistakes, life can take a drastic turn at any moment. I'm still at college and at that phase where I'm learning to fit in with the real world and its challenges.

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