Oftentimes, people wonder why it’s so hard to sustain a relationship when nothing is going wrong. Sometimes you may be depending on that person for something that only you can provide yourself with. That would be individual comfort and acceptance. In my opinion, it is important to be comfortable with yourself, although it is nice to hear kind words from a boyfriend or girlfriend you need to believe it yourself.
You need to love yourself before you can love someone else. If you can’t 100 percent accept yourself, then how are you supposed to accept someone else when you’re still working on yourself? You can’t look for that kind of comfort in someone else. Yes, there is a level of comfort that another can provide you with, but the most intimate level of comfort is the kind you can give yourself. So, you need to accept what you consider to be flaws. I have features that I am self conscious over every once and awhile, but I wouldn’t want to change them because that would be succumbing to those negative thoughts. Don’t stop at your physical features, accept your character as well. If you’re an emotional person that’s OK, you aren’t the only one. If you have anxiety, that’s okay too. You can get through it and there are plenty of people out there who suffer from it as well.
Once you have that intimate relationship of acceptance and comfort with yourself, you are set. Anything that anyone else can give you is great, but not the most important. You can’t depend on other people to provide you with a fake feeling of self comfort. Whether it be through Instagram likes or verbal praise it’s not the same as it would be coming from you.
