She is constantly thinking about what she says, does, looks like, and how she feels. Is she coming off nice enough? Is she being too nice? Did she look at that girl the wrong way?
If someone doesn’t like her, she will overanalyze every little thing she ever did or said to that person, even if she doesn’t like them either.
She almost always feels the need to be liked. She doesn’t want people not liking her because she knows how it feels to not be liked.
She does her very best to like everyone. If she doesn’t like someone, she must think of at least a million reasons why she doesn’t like them, so she can convince herself it’s okay. Even then, she really doesn’t like disliking people. Sometimes, she’ll even obsess over it.
She is very good at feeling what other people are feeling, almost to a fault. She wears her emotions on her sleeve, no matter how hard she tries not to. This makes her a dedicated friend, but also a needy friend who needs to be reminded of how she is loved.
She seeks reassurance everywhere she can – with her friends, in her romantic relationships, with her family, with her school, with her work, and mostly, with herself.
She spends most of her day talking to herself. She talks herself out of feeling cranky, into feeling fun, and why she needs to feel a certain way.
If she’s mad, she will actually be mad at herself for being mad. She doesn’t like the negative energy nor could she stand having others see her as someone who is less than perfectly kind.
Since she feels so much, she craves external clarification that what she is feeling is right or reasons why it’s wrong. While she is usually fearful of what people think, she must get input because she must know what others think of her.
When someone critiques her, she obsesses over it longer than anyone else she knows. She will fixate on the criticism until she is perfect again and all is right.
When someone compliments her, she must thank them in a proper way. She often overcompensates when given compliments, but they mean so much to her that it’s hard for her not to. She will obsess over these compliments, convincing herself as to why she deserves them.
When she has a conversation with someone, even someone inside her own friend group, she’s constantly wondering if she’s saying the right things. Outside of her friend group, she always worries if the people she is meeting actually like her or if they are pretending.
She often makes up secret messages behind the things people are saying because she has a hard time trusting people. This makes her read too much in to what people say and do, which results in her imagining and creating drama that actually doesn’t exist.
It’s very difficult for her to move on if she disappointed herself or someone else.
She expects herself to be the sun, the moon, and the stars. So, when she lets herself down, or worse, someone else, she beats herself up about it. She won’t be able to stop thinking about it until she feels everyone, including herself, is okay with her again.
She is always trying to be the happiest, strongest, most polite person in the room. If she is quiet, it is because she is either blissfully content, utterly miserable, or she is letting herself experience the emotions of others.
She puts on a happy face when she doesn’t want to, which eats her up on the inside.
When she’s happy, she is insanely happy. When she is sad, she is painfully sad.
She will do anything in her power to make someone smile. She makes everyone else’s problems her own. However, she sometimes neglects to take care of herself.
She is a very good person. Her ability to feel what others are feeling makes her liked by many, even though she struggles to like herself.
When she accepts her sensitivity, she uses it to communicate with and get to know people unlike anyone else. She will be there for you when you need her, no matter what.
She has the ability to never forgot how everyone has their own story. This makes her aim to be humble, patient, and unselfish towards anyone she comes in contact with.
Though her emotions are overwhelming, there is nothing she would not do for another person, even when she struggles to do things for herself.
Perhaps most importantly, she will love more fiercely than anyone you've ever met. Though it takes everything out of her, she falls and she falls hard, not only in romantic relationships but in every relationship she has.
She will not simply give a small piece of herself to you, she will give all of herself to you and more.
When she questions you and begs for reassurance, give it to her. Give it to her because she will love you like no one else ever has.
