If you haven’t been in this position before, then consider yourself lucky. Having your heart broken by someone you thought would never dare to hurt you is a terrible feeling, but hey it happens to the best of us. Now remember, this process won’t be easy. Getting over someone can be as hard as trying to get a smoker to quiet smoking, because just like cigarettes, there is just something so addicting about this certain individual.
1. Please stop torturing yourself with those love songs.
Music has the ability to bring you back to that exact moment in your life where everything just felt so perfect, so right. It has the ability to make you want to run back to that person and beg them to come back into your life, so don’t; decide that its time to switch the station. It’s time for you to crank up Taylor Swift’s “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together” and turn off “Let Me Love You” by Mario.
2. Remember that it is OK to cry it out; don’t bottle up your emotions.
I know that it is easier for you to be prideful and not admit that you’re hurt, but it just isn’t healthy. Go on and buy your favorite tub of ice cream, or if you don’t have much of a sweet tooth, go on and buy that family bag of your favorite chips. Calories don’t count when you’re heartbroken.
3. Don’t you dare start with the “what if"’s.
As cheesy as it may sound, if something is meant to be then it will happen. Don’t try to force something that is no longer there. You have to move forward and not look back because even though you may not think so at this very moment, there is indeed something bigger and better waiting for you out there.
4. Stop checking their social media.
Don’t go through Instagram and check whose picture they just liked 20 seconds ago or whose Facebook profile picture they just commented on, because what do you gain from this? It’s time for you to go on and live life to its full potential, and checking up on what they’re up to on a daily basis is only holding you back from achieving true happiness.
5. Do go out with your friends; don’t stay in to watch "The Notebook" for the 100th time.
Go on, put on your favorite dress, and get ready for a night full of shenanigans with your best gal friends. Now, I’m not saying go on and try to get back on the horse right away because that may take some time, but a little flirting here and there wont kill you (as long as you’re comfortable with it, of course).
6. Remember that patience is key.
Getting over someone is not something you can do overnight. This person, no matter what it was they did that caused you this much pain, once meant the world to you. It doesn’t matter if you guys were together for six years, a month, or if you guys were just “talking,” (a term young people in this era have come up that basically means being in a relationship without a label). Giving your heart out to someone just to have them take it for granted is a huge deal, and don’t you ever dare let anyone tell you otherwise.
7. Keep in mind that staying friends with them is possible, but don’t feel obligated to do so.
Because when they bring someone new around it’s going to hurt, it’s going to hurt like hell and you’ll have to pretend that everything is OK when in reality it’s so far from it.
8. Forgive but don’t forget.
Find it in your heart to forgive this person, for whatever it was that they did because believe me when I tell you that you’ll feel like a weight has been lifted off you when you do so. Forgive them, but don’t you dare forget what they put you through and how awful they made you feel. Remember that not everyone deserves a second chance.
9. And the last, most important step of them all is to remind yourself that you will be happy again.
Maybe not today or tomorrow, but you will. Finding the strength to walk away is one of the hardest things in this world, but you can and you will do it. Remind yourself that if someone isn’t serving your life any good, then there is no point in keeping them around. You deserve to find someone that will love you unconditionally, someone that will cherish every second you spend with them, and someone whose hug will one day feel like home to you. But remember, you don’t need another human to make your life complete. You are a strong, independent woman that needs no man.
