9 Things I Wish I Could Tell My High School Self

9 Things I Wish I Could Tell My High School Self

Seriously, just RELAX.

There's probably one thing that many people aged 20 and older can agree on: high school was hell. You're lucky to have just survived it. Regardless of what school you go to, high school is almost always full of the same stuff: popularity contests, drama, heartbreak, awkward puberty, loneliness, at least one identity crisis, and a plethora of other mortifying and excruciating experiences. I think we all deserve a pat on the back for making it out of high school alive. I can't say I would have done anything differently, but looking back now, I'd at least like to tell my 14-year-old self a few things to make it easier on my self during those four years.

1. It's okay to not be okay.

You don't have to be put together all the time. It's okay to feel depressed, alone, or anxious. Everything WILL get better.

2. Don't worry about other people's opinions of you.

The only thing that matters is how you see yourself.

3. Stop worrying about boys so much.

Sure, sometimes high school sweethearts do end up together, but chances are, you two aren't going to get married honey.

4. It really doesn't matter how popular or unpopular you are.

Popularity does not define your worth

5. Gossip is toxic.

Unfortunately, I didn't start watching Gossip Girl until I got to college, so I had to learn this lesson the hard way.

6. The SAT isn't going to shape the fate of your whole future.

Seriously, stop stressing out about it. You don't need to hire a tutor for the SAT - it's a bogus method of measuring your talent and intelligence.

7. Find your people.

It doesn't matter who they are on the social scale - find the people who understand you and accept you for who you are - those will be the ones that become life-long friends.

8. You don't need to get into a prestigious college to achieve everything you want to achieve.

When I applied to colleges, my #1 choice was Bates. I actually ended up at the school that was at the rock bottom of my fourteen school (that's right, I applied to FOURTEEN colleges) list - and I had the time of my life there.

9. You don't need to have your whole life figured out right now.

Your whole future isn't going to fall apart if you don't have a major picked out by the time you go to college. You don't have to have a career plan all mapped out either. Stop worrying about it so much, and just focus on what you enjoy doing. The rest will all come in time.

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Why Your Grandma Is Your Biggest Blessing In Life

Because nobody loves you more than she does.

There are many people in your life you are thankful for: Mom, Dad, siblings, cousins, best friends, teachers, neighbors, you name it. You are grateful to have people who constantly support you, who pick you up when you're down and love you unconditionally. But the one person who stands out among the rest of them is your grandma.

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Ever since you were little, you and your grandma have always had a special connection. Going over to Grandma's house for the night was something you looked forward to. She knew how to entertain you at your best and worst moments. No matter what you did together, you loved it. Being with your grandma wasn't like being at home or with your parents – it was better. You went to the park, made cookies, went out to dinner, got a “sweet treat" at the mall, played Go Fish, took a bubble bath for as long as you wanted and got way too much dessert than you should have. You did things you weren't supposed to do, but Grandma didn't stop you. Because at Grandma's house there were no rules, and you didn't have to worry about a single thing. Being with Grandma was the true epitome of childhood. She let you be you. She always made sure you had the best time when you were with her, and she loved watching you grow up with a smile on your face.

The older you got, your weekend excursions with your grandma weren't as frequent, and you didn't get to see her as much. You became more and more busy with school, homework, clubs, sports, and friends. You made the most out of your time to see her, and you wished you could be with her more. Although you were in the prime of your life, she mattered even more to you the older you both became. You were with your friends 24/7, but you missed being with your grandma. When the time rolled around, and you got the chance to spend time with her, she told you never to apologize. She wanted you to go out, have fun and enjoy life the way it makes you happy.

Reflecting back on these moments with your grandma, you realize how truly special she is to you. There is no one who could ever compare to her nor will there ever be. All your life, there is no one who will be as sweet, as caring, as sincere or as genuine as her. Even though you're all grown up now, there are things about your grandma that never changed from when you were a kid. She still takes you out for your favorite meal because she knows how important eating out means to you. She writes you letters and sends you a $5 bill every now and then because she knows you're a hard-working college student with no money. She still helps you with all of your Christmas shopping because she knows it's your tradition. She still asks what's new with your young life because hearing about it makes her day and she still loves you to no end. Your grandma is your biggest blessing (whether you knew it or not), and she always will be no matter what.

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In 2019, Let's Stop Mom Shaming

It's baffling that things so personal such as how or what we feed our kids or if they are completely potty trained by two are people's business other than our own.


Mom-shaming, an unnecessary sort of criticism that has been around for longer than it should, and it seems like nowadays everyone believes they are a better parent to your child than you. Most moms have experienced the unwelcomed advice about their child from someone at some point in their life, and it takes everything not to lose your cool.

It has seemed to become an even more popular trend that everyone knows how to raise your kid except for you. Maybe because of the popularity of social media and the sharing of our children's pictures and milestones or maybe just because people are extra courageous now, but it's getting worse. Even people who don't even have children seem to think they are certified to enter their two cents as well.

Mom-shaming is in all sorts of forms, whether it's up front from a random stranger or backhanded compliments from loved ones, everyone seems to be concerned on how you're taking care of your child. I've had it from family members to random people who I don't really know. Whether it's on how to feed my child or the outfit they have on for the day.

But it is time to end the horrible and destroying social trend known as mom shaming. It's baffling that things so personal such as how or what we feed our kids or if they are completely potty trained by two are people's business other than our own. It's now 2019, and the new thing we should all follow is minding our own business.

As we attempt to end the oh so fun mom shaming, remember to stand up for yourself. At the end of the day, you're the parent to your child, and you know what your child needs, no one else. Most people calling out mistakes, probably have or are making mistakes of their own. Mom-shaming is a way for others to feel better for themselves, so don't fall for the smokescreen and keep on being a rocking mom.

Unless my child is in immediate danger or I ask, keep your advice and opinions to yourself. If my child is happy and healthy, I'm doing something right. And if I need your advice I'll ask, if not, please stay in your lane.

So instead of tearing moms apart, let's build each other up.

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