As I packed my car, preparing to journey to school as a sophomore, I could not help but fear the next year ahead. Sure, I was excited to begin a new school year with the friends I made during my freshmen year. I was excited to go back to school because this year I was not considered “fresh-meat.” I knew my way around campus. I was a sophomore – I was ready. But, the only thing I was not ready to do was say goodbye to my boyfriend of seven years.
My boyfriend and I have been together since seventh grade. As we enter our second year of college, we already know what to expect – late night facetimes, quick texts in between classes, and long months without being a part of each other’s day-to-day lives. In all honesty, it is hard. It is really hard. But we choose to have this hard relationship with each other rather than have it easy with someone else. If you are in a long distance relationship and are struggling, here are a few tips:
1. Focus on yourself.
Most likely, the reason you are in a long distance relationship is because you chose different colleges. Remember why you chose your school – because you loved it. Do not waste the four years you have at school being upset in your dorm. Work hard in class and get to know as many people as you can.
2. Trust each other.
A long distance relationship is impossible without trust. You have to let each other go out, have fun and meet other people. More importantly, encourage it. Encourage each other to have the time of their lives at school while remaining loyal.
3. Be each other’s biggest supporter.
The worst thing a couple can do is hold each other back. You must work to be a team and support each other in any decision or situation. Encourage the other to take any opportunity given to them, even if it means studying abroad for a semester and being away from each other for six months. Remember, some opportunities are once in a lifetime.
4. Make time to talk to each other.
Designate times to talk on the phone or facetime, to tell each other about your day, the new friend you made in class, or how great you did on your last paper. You may not be able to see each other everyday, but at least you can keep each other updated on what is going on.
5. Make time to see each other.
Depending on how long the distance is, you may be able to visit each other from time-to-time. Whether it is planned or a surprise, try to workout times to be able to see each other when you are both free.
6. Be there for each other.
College and long distance is extremely difficult, especially when you put the two together. Sporadic breakdowns may occur due to a difficult class, or frustration over missing each other. Comfort each other in anyway you can.
7. Keep it interesting.
Even though you are far apart, you are clearly in each other’s hearts. Do not forget to remind each other how much you mean to each other. In fact, send each other long text messages once in a while about how much you love and miss each other or even surprise each other with packages every so often.
8. Be considerate.
You are both on different schedules. It is going to be frustrating when there are several days that go by where you can barely fit in a conversation. In this situation, stay calm. You have to respect each other’s schedules and accept that not every day will be easy.
I wish you the best of luck with your school year and long-distance relationship.
