One of my fellow Creators here at Odyssey wrote an article giving 8 reasons why she would never date a frat boy. Coming from a small private school, we are split about half and half with how many students participate in the 13 chapters. The fraternities have an average GPA of 3.141 and complete an average of 8 community service hours per student. But you have 8 reasons you wouldn't date one of these guys? Let's see.
1. A fraternity is a breeding ground for sexual assault.
There are bad apples. Trust me, I've seen them watching the girls that are way too drunk and have pried them off of my friends. But for every one of those, there are the brothers who will sit them down, confront them, and tell them that it is NOT acceptable. Just because there are bad apples, don't discount the whole bunch. There are sexual assaults that happen in places other than frat houses.
2. Those stupid socials.
Woah, woah, woah. "He's going to go whether you're with him or not. So, I guess you can sit at home and study while hes with the sorority girls?" First off, socials are meant to bond the brothers, show that none of them can dance, have a nice laugh, and for him to be able to let you meet his brothers who will be there for him whether you're there or not. If you can't trust your boyfriend to be around sorority girls without you for a night anyways... you might wanna reassess who you're picking to date, and I don't mean because he's a fraternity man.
3. It's a white-centric culture. Do you really want to be associated with that?
See my answer to number 1. I go to a small private school that is primarily white. That's just how it is. Our student body is made up of 79.3% white students. I have never seen a person of color disparaged from joining a fraternity, slandered by a fraternity, or turned away from a fraternity event.
4. They're obnoxious.
Considering the only thing the Creator says is basically check out this video, which leads to a private video on YouTube, I'm not really sure she even has an argument here.
5. Hazing.
Yes, it happens. Should it, no. We had a speaker come to our campus last year and it was required that every Greek Life or athletic student attend his lecture. According to him, if you make a freshman on the football team carry more than one person's pads, it's hazing. Don't get me wrong. More serious hazing DOES happen, but there are measures in place to make sure it does not happen, and consequences in place if something does happen.
6. Alcohol? Stay very far away.
You put any group of guys together and add alcohol. It doesn't matter if they're 60, they're gonna get stupid. It's a proven fact. This is not limited to fraternity men.
7. Party, party, party.
"The only reason he's even dating you is to parade you around in front of his frat brothers?" So... why would you date a guy like that? Maybe you just have terrible taste in guys and should do better...
8. They're not really here to study.
She sites a chart that shows the five-year average GPA for a fraternity man on her campus is a 2.86. "Maybe their study hours should go up a little." Well... she kind of fails to mention that the men's average for her campus in the same time period is 2.88.
Yes, fraternity men can be stupid. As can all guys, especially 20-something guys who are on a college campus. But some of the best guys I have met at Furman who have the biggest hearts, smartest minds, and any girl would be lucky to date them.
