A lot of people are too quick to count out introverts as people who search for love, but introverts are human just like all of you over dramatic humans who don’t mind sharing your every thought. At times the quietness of an introvert is interpreted as rudeness, or that person appears to be standoffish. Because of these things, introverts are very quickly given a bad rap in the scheme of romance. Quiet does not mean loner; quiet does not mean unfriendly. Being an introvert isn’t a negative thing, or something to be ashamed of, but really is a gift that gives a different perspective on life. Introverts may not appear to be searching for love like everyone else, but truly they are. If you succeed and break through an introvert’s shell, you’ll earn their trust, friendship, and most importantly, their love. But when you’ve earned this love you may not know, because remember we are dealing with the introvert, and introverts hate to show their feelings. So how do you know if your introverted friend loves you? Well here are some tell-tale signs that will let you know.
1. We come to you with all of our problems.
Introverts are naturally known as the “quiet ones”. It would be easy to assume that all of us introverts are happy, go-lucky people because we are the last ones you will hear complain about anything. We like to keep our thoughts to ourselves unless they are absolutely needed or we are bursting at the seams, so if we come to you with a problem and want to discuss it with you, we must really trust you. Trust isn’t hard for an introvert to give; it’s just seldom necessary because we rely so heavily on ourselves. We are independent by nature because we do not want to burden others with our own problems, so asking you for help, and using you as a sounding board to our life’s story is our way of telling you we appreciate you, and we love you.
2. We will participate in extrovert things with you.
Participating in extrovert activities, like attending an event with more than 10 people we do not know (or an event with more than 10 people in general) is an act of true love, hands down. That’s that.
3. We make you a part of our “daily routine”.
Introverts are famous for loving their alone time. We like to have time to sit in the silence, think about our day, and process everything. Alone time is crucial to an introvert because this is when we reenergize and refuel ourselves, whereas the extrovert refuels from being around other people. If we invite you into our alone time and make you a part of that daily routine, we love you. Our alone time is crucial, so if you are a part of it, you are crucial as well.
4. We tell you what’s going on in our lives.
Introverts are naturally quiet people. We keep to ourselves and don’t ever feel like we need to share much of what is going on in our lives, so if we do share life details with you, it is a clear sign you are something special. As us introverts sit quietly, we notice those who notice us, and just naturally feel more exposed that we would like to. Sharing details and personal information with you is a big deal. Don’t write this gesture off as something small, because it is definitely not.
5. We give you feedback.
Just as it is hard for us to share our thoughts and opinions about our own lives, a lot of the time it is hard for us introverts to share our thoughts about your life. Introverts avoid conflict at all cost. Giving feedback is opening a door to conflict, so if we give you feedback about your life or things you’re involved in, it means we are investing ourselves. By giving you our opinion we are telling you we love you by being 100 percent honest. We are not the friends to just nod our heads and agree, but tell you something that may be hard to hear, and this is all out of love.
6. We will do anything to make you happy.
Acts of service are big among introverts. We aren’t very loud with our words, but we will do whatever we can to tell you we love you with our actions. Whether we know you need help getting ready for a big event so we pitch in to make it happen, or we just surprise you with coffee on a random Thursday morning, we are doing these things because we love you. Acts of service scream, “I love you” and introverts enjoy doing things for other, not because it makes themselves feel good, but because it brings joy to someone else. An introvert’s main goal is for everyone to be happy. We love to know our friends are having a good time and enjoying themselves, so we will do whatever we can to make sure this happens.
7. We lose our filter when we are around you.
Introverts are the lay-low type of people by definition. We don’t like to draw attention to ourselves, and very rarely let our guard down, but when we become comfortable with someone we become just like the extroverts of the world. Maybe its because we feel like we have to say all the jokes we’ve been storing up for years, or just need a good laugh. When we become comfortable in an environment there is no turning back, and the same goes with people. If we are comfortable around you we will do and say whatever we feel. This is an extreme sign of trust and love. If an introvert is willing to be their true self around you they must love you a whole lot.
