I'm sure you have a long list of resolutions for 2017 and if they'll make you happy then I wish you luck with them. You may be looking at your list thinking "dang, how am I going to be consistent with all of these?" Well frankly, I don't know but here are some others and if you stick with any, let it be these. In 2017, make it a point to:

1. Tone down your obsessions

You can set a goal to exercise more often, but you shouldn’t go from zero days a week to 6. If you eat a cheeseburger for lunch, you don’t have to go crazy, plan to skip dinner, and feel the need to spend the rest of the day at the gym. You can set a goal to go on one adventure a week but if it’s Sunday night and you’ve barely had time to breathe all week, not to mention go on an adventure, you shouldn’t feel like you have to plan a midnight adventure to maintain your goal or else your whole week is shot. You’re not a failure; you’re not a disappointment; you need to relax and see that you’re doing the best you can and that's good enough.

2. Do everything with confidence

Whether you have to fake it or whether you fully agree with whatever decision/action you’re making, be confident. If you want to ask your boss for a raise, don’t look at your shoes and think about all the reasons why he should say no. Look him in the eye and tell him all the reasons why you deserve another zero on your paycheck. You’re your biggest critic and you deserve more than you think you do. People are going to judge you regardless, so you might as well do what you want—what will make you happy.

3. Get out of your comfort zone more often

Life is short. Sometimes opportunity knocks and we don’t answer because we’re scared, we think we won’t like it, or whatever other reason we rationalize in our heads for why we shouldn’t step out of our comfort zones. Say yes to a date with a guy you think isn’t your type. Maybe you’ll have a good time and have a new friend; maybe you’ll just confirm the fact that he’s not the one for you; or maybe you’ll actually like him and realize that your “type” isn’t set in stone—it’s constantly changing. The more you take risks and step out of your limiting comfort zone, the more you learn about yourself.

4. Make more time for yourself

It’s okay to take a sick day or leave work early every now and then to get a mani/pedi. If you’re losing your mind because it feels like all you do is work or do things for other people, take the day to yourself. Turn your phone off and watch movies all day; splurge on new paints and canvases and revisit your favorite hobby; do what you need to do to remember why your life is great. It’s okay to choose yourself over your job, your kids, or whatever else you lose yourself in every once in a while. You’re worth it and hello, that’s what massage parlors are made for.

5. Stop settling for less than you deserve

Whether it be in love, friendships, work, etc., this year make it a point to stand up for yourself. You’re not any less than anyone else, so stop allowing other people to treat you that way. You can do this in ways ranging from telling your friend you’d prefer BBQ for dinner over sushi, to breaking up with your SO because you’re unhappy more often than not. Everyone has the same right to happiness/satisfaction, some people just take advantage of it more than others. So start living YOUR life for YOU, not for other people. No one should have your best interest in mind more than you do.

6. Always find the silver lining

I get it. Maybe your alarm didn’t go off, you got a flat tire on your way to work, you spilled your coffee all over your files, and you got stuck in traffic on your way home. It sounds like a crappy day when you put it like that. But that’s not all that happened. Maybe the cafeteria for once didn’t run out of French fries; maybe the sun was shining and there wasn’t a cloud in the sky for the first time all week; or maybe the only good thing about today was the fact that you woke up. Regardless, we all have bad days but they’re what make the good days seem so great. In 2017, make it a point to not victimize yourself and to see the bigger picture: that things can always be worse and nothing is ever as bad as you think it is. Change your perspective.

7. Be unapologetically you

I can already see people rolling their eyes at the cheesiness of this but hey, sorry I’m not sorry. If you want to wear cat ears, grow a beard like Dumbledore’s, dye your hair purple, book a spontaneous trip to Colorado, blow your savings on a $55million racehorse (nice one, Jay-Z), do it. You’ll be judged and patronized to no end but life is too short to limit yourself by the fear of other people’s opinions. You’re doing it for you, not for anyone else, so why should their thoughts matter? Don’t apologize for being you because no one really wants you to—they just want something to talk about. So smile at their judgmental glances and ride into the sunset on your $58K golf cart hovercraft.