I’m bisexual. By definition, this means I’m sexually, romantically, emotionally, and otherwise attracted to both men and women. I have been publicly out for approximately four years. Fortunately, I was born and raised in one of the more enlightened areas of one of the more enlightened countries in the world, and therefore, I have not faced too much discrimination. However, this does not I’m not surrounded by people who are, while well-intended, lacking education.

Maybe it's the wave of sexual awareness and tolerance our country as been experiencing in the past decade and people have yet to learn what everything means. Maybe people are curious about things they don't understand. Maybe they think they understand, but don't. In any case, here's a list of seven things I'm beyond sick and tired of hearing.

1. "So you're confused?"

Newsflash. Sexualities other than yours exist. Just because you can't relate to it doesn't mean it isn't real. "Bisexual" is not synonymous with "questioning" or "experimenting in college." The jury is no longer out with this one.

2. "Save some for the rest of us!"

First of all, you're clearly desperate and it's not cute. Just because I'm bi does not mean I'm stealing partners from you. If I ever do, sorry not sorry. But that happens with straight people, too, so knock it off. I'm not that thirsty and lacking of a personal life that I'm plucking every potential beau from your cold, dead hands. Plus, I'm not polyamorous, which means that I'm only involved with/committed to one person at a time, if at all. I don't stamp certificates of ownership on everyone I talk to so that they're no longer free for your taking.Second of all, what makes you think I have nothing better to do than play the field 24/7? See #7 for more on that point.

3. "How do you know you're bisexual?"

I think the real question is how do you know you're straight? I think it might be a phase you're going through.

4. "So which do you like better?

This is actually an understandable enough question to address. I just want to remind everyone that sexuality is a spectrum. Therefore everyone is different. Some of us like one better than the other. Some of us fall right in the middle. Some of us knew since we were young, before we had any kind of sexual experience with anyone. No matter the case, it's none of anyone else's business. You wouldn't ask your friend if he likes his ex-girlfriend's vagina better than his current girlfriend's. Just don't. Assume that, when we say we're bi, we like both sexes enough to adopt the label.

5. "How many orgies have you had?"

Wouldn't you like to know.

No, but seriously, bisexual doesn't mean polyamorous. Polyamorous, as said my dictionary.com, "pertains to participation is multiple and simultaneous loving or sexual relationships." This isn't the same as bisexual, which does not refer to the number of partners an individual does or does not take. I've only ever been in monogamous relationships and have no interest in exploring polyamory. It isn't for me. On that same note, don't assume that polyamory is exclusively applicable to those who don't identify as straight. Heterosexuals can be polyamorous, too.

6. "But you don't look gay..."

Excuse me if I don't fit into your molded perception of how a lady-lover should look. Just because I also like girls doesn't mean I'm a butch lumber-jill with short hair, plaid, and hairy armpits. Some of us might be (and more power to them), but we're people with various styles just like you. Here's some stuff that may come as a shock to some of you: I own dresses, I apply makeup almost every day, I have long blonde hair, I'm in a sorority, and I don't play sports. Not that women need to abstain from athletic activity or constantly cake their faces, but a lot of things about me fit into society's perception of what's feminine. This is not because I feel like I need to prove my femininity to anyone, but because it's just the way I am. A person's sexuality is not directly linked with who they are as a person. It's not everything. Similarly, plenty of girls hate makeup and shopping and still identify as heterosexual. Personal preferences are personal preferences and we need to stop assigning certain characteristics and appearances to different sexualities when they have little to nothing to do with each other.

7. "You must be horny all the time. How do you get anything done?"

Okay. Just because I’m attracted to two sexes doesn’t mean I’m stifling a constant lady boner and failing everything because I physically can’t stop checking everyone out. Even if I was eternally turned on by everything that moves, there are these things called self-control, self-discipline, and priorities you (hopefully) have by the time you're an adult. I don’t live for sex any more than the next person. I go to class, I have a job, I hold leaderships positions, and I'm occasionally social. I have other things to do in my life besides let my sexual impulses rule my actions. And by the way, sexuality and libido are two independently existing concepts. For all I know, the straight person who sits next to me in my math class is a complete nympho that gets it on every night while I sit in my room watching Netflix and eating Nutella.

Moreover, bisexuality really isn't that difficult to understand if you really think about it. For the umpteenth time, it simply describes an individual who is attracted to both men and women. This doesn't mean at the same time. This doesn't mean we're confused. Or greedy. Or going through a phase. Or constantly horny. This also isn't the only thing that defines who we are as people. It's a part of us, but no bigger a part than your sexuality is of you. So go forth with this new knowledge, grasshoppers, and stop trying to prompt us for threesomes and orgies.