You can be yourself around him
Comfortability is key in any relationship. After the first date, you should never feel ashamed about ordering a plate of half dozen buffalo wings as an appetizer (unless you eat wings super violently, and everyone tells you it’s gross). If he thought you were cool and dateable before he asked you out, trust me he’ll like you even more after those six wings are gone. It’s important to establish a sense of comfort with your significant other. Lack of comfort could lead to anxiety and could ultimately prevent you from enjoying dates, outings, and other fun “coupley” stuff. When you’re able to be yourself, it’s much easier to connect and bond.
When the going gets tough, he brings you Ben & Jerrys
Whether something extreme like not getting the job, or something small like a fight with your best friend, he’s always there with that pint of Chocolate Therapy, and a hug to make sure you get through it. It’s important to have a partner who cares when you're feeling low. Nothing is more comforting than a whole heart, and a listening ear.
Offensive language is not in his vocabulary
Aretha said it best, “R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me”. Here’s an inside look on what it means to me. If a man respects you, he doesn't use offensive language. When he sees a mentally challenged person the “R” word doesn't dare cross his mind, and if he saw a black person, he would never use the “N” word to greet him. The way a man speaks to, or about others, is the way he will speak to, or about you. Never give a man the ability to make you feel inferior or offended by using foul or degrading language.
He respects your rules and “no no’s”
"Sometimes when girls say yes, they actually mean no, vice versa”. I’m not sure who created that logic, but I’m here to let you know it is not true. When you say no to a man, he should respect your wish. My no is my no, and my yes is my yes.
Your friends and family like him
Regardless of his flaws and imperfections, if your friends and family like him, he's a keeper. Your mother and father are usually going to be your toughest critics even though your big brother may think he is. If your younger siblings/your dog cant resist playing with him, never let go. If your friends refer to you as #goals and continuously compliment his character, he is definitely someone to keep close. With your family and friends being your closest circle, it is important for your partner to feel welcome and wanted, and the only way he's joining the club, is if he's wanted.
Giggle, smile, haha!!!
Laughter reduces stress, and improves health. Find a man who’s capable of making you stress free and healthy. Being able to enjoy each others company, and find silliness and smiles in your relationship is in my opinion one of the most important things in a relationship. If he cant make you smile and laugh, I’m 100% sure it won’t work out. Nobody wants a rain cloud over their head 24/7.
He speaks his mind without being arrogant or disrespectful
It’s easy for a woman to act like she never messes up, but sorry ladies, we’re wrong sometimes too. It’s important to find someone who stands up for himself while being respectful. If he puts his hands on you, screams in your face, or makes you feel unsafe, tell him #BoyBye. If he stands firm on his point and displays comfort and authority while being a gentleman, tell him #ImSorry. Remember, nobody wants a man with no opinion, and nobody wants a man who's not going to defend himself. Also keep in mind a woman shouldn't be allowed to walk all over a man, just because she's a woman. That’s abuse ladies.
