Celibacy-to refrain from sex before marriage. It's a touchy subject. Especially with multiple dating apps like Tinder which is basically set up for people to match, and hook up. Many teens and young adults have no problem doing the deed, but there are also a lot of people that would rather wait for the right time. Why is that wrong though? People look at others weird when they say they are celibate, or do not want to have sex, and it's certainly hard to come by someone who agrees and respects your life choices. I am here to tell you that it's ok, and that someone will come along and sweep you off your feet one day. But for those who don't think it's ok, here's a list of why being celibate, or practicing celibacy is ok.
1. Many do it for religious reasons.
In the Bible (1 Corinthians 7), it states "It's good for a man to not have sex with a woman". Many take this statement and many of the others about celibacy in the Bible to heart and practice it because God, or our Lord told us too. That's not a bad thing, it's following your religion.
2. Saving yourself gives you time to find yourself.
Many do not know themselves until later in life. What if they get into this and change completely? That could ruin their mental states forever. But in general, many people don't know themselves, and you should probably know yourself before jumping the gun.
3. Many are attached to their partner, but are completely unsure if they are ready or not.
They love their partner. Their partner is ready. The pressure is on, but are you ready? Take time to let that sink in, if you are on the boarders it's ok to not go through with it, and many who are celibate, are mostly unsure if it's what they want.
4. Not only do you need to know yourself through and through, but you need to know your body, and how it works.
It's hard to know your body. It's weird to talk about so many don't and just Google it. That's not safe, and those who are afraid to be asking family and doctors about their bodies, and those who are uncomfortable with talking about their bodies are probably celibate.
5. Some don't want to waste their time and want to find a forever.
Personally, I want to know if someone truly loves me before I jump into bed with them. What I mean by truly loves me is, that they love me for things that aren't physical. They love me for how intelligent I am. They love to have deep conversations with me. They love to laugh with me. They love to cry with me. They love all of that first, before they love how I look, and physically. And I think that's how a lot of celibate people are.
6. Sex is risky.
Possible pregnancy literally freaks me out. I know there are ways to prevent it, but what if your condom breaks? What if you aren't on birth control? What if you don't have money to get the morning after pill? All of that is nightmare scenario for those who practice celibacy.
7. Losing your virginity is common now.
It's common to lose your virginity at a young age now. So being able to prove to people that you can have a forever, be married without having sex, and still be alright, is ok.
Now don't get me wrong. This article is not a bag or a bash on those who choose to have sex before marriage. I am not here to judge you. There's nothing wrong with it, but those who choose to stay celibate should be more understood and people need to realize that there is nothing wrong with being celibate. Be safe!
